Opinions on dating somebody half your age?

[Purplebuntingg]

E.g- 24 year old woman and 50 year old man. Opinions needed

I bet he does.

You're a woman half his age offering no strings sex on tap. What's not to like? For him that is. Not you.

You seem quite aware that he's getting a lot more out of this 'relationship' than you, so I don't quite understand your reluctance to dump him.

While some age gap relationships can work out as evidenced on this thread, in this case, it’s not a relationship, you’re not dating; he isn’t taking you anywhere on a date. It’s just a FWB. If he’d wanted more he would have done something about it by now. The age gap is a bit of a red herring.

Thanks everyone for your responses.

just a random update but I was looking on his Facebook page and he has posted rude ‘jokes’ about ‘middle aged women’ (not funny.) and tenna ladies. memes about buying your wife a Hoover for Christmas and giving the gift that sucks and one about ‘rules’ for your wife like ‘don’t talk back’ ‘answer the door wrapped only in cellophane’ and he said in an ideal world. I’m thinking misogynist

Feeling pretty down about the situation today

Get rid.

Echo pp. Get rid. Rip off the band aid quickly, it will hurt at first but you will move on and have a chance to heal. Don't let him use you.

They never last - just look at Jerry Hall and Rupert Murdoch.

Dosent mean they all don't last.

Lots of same age relationships don't last.

As I've said above, divorce rates are considerably higher among couples with large age gaps.

But what is your obsession with relationships 'lasting'? Just because a relationship lasts for a long time doesn't mean it's happy or healthy. Especially when one of the partners had little experience of relationships or life in general until she, and it's almost always a she, met a decades older partner.

I don't understand this. I really don't.

You seem very well aware that your 'boyfriend' is a rather unpleasant person who is using you for sex. There is every reason to dump him forthwith and no reason to continue this 'relationship'. You owe him nothing. What really is the problem here?

@IcedPurple I’ve no idea why I am doing this. It’s like I am trying to ‘compete’ for him attention. I keep doing thing which I know he likes to try and please him and keep him interested. I don’t know why I keep doing it to myself as I know he won’t change

Compete for his attention with whom?

I very much doubt your average 50 year old man is fighting off the admirers.

He's not a catch. Dump him.

@IcedPurple It just feels sometimes that I’m not the only one he is entertaining but I could be wrong

There are so many red flags in your posts OP. You say he's divorced, but how sure are you about that? The fact that you haven't actually gone on any proper dates is a definite red flag - it's like he's hiding you from either his wife, or as you've suggested, other women.

Judging by your later posts, I think you know what you need to do - you've just got to work up the courage and conviction to do it. 👊

In the words of Lalalaletmeexplain: Block, delete, move on.

She's written a great book that I'm in the middle of reading and it's eye-opening and helpful for identifying red flag behaviour: www.waterstones.com/book/block-delete-move-on/lalalaletmeexplain/9781787635234