Opinions on dating somebody half your age?

[Purplebuntingg]

E.g- 24 year old woman and 50 year old man. Opinions needed

I would presume dirty old man, unless evidence said the contrary.

Why can’t you be with him? I’m guessing he’s married?

Too big an age gap. Grim.

He’s not married but is divorced. I just don’t feel like he wants anything more than what we have now. He also has a teenage son

Personally I think it feels off. It wouldn't be so bad if he were still young-ish but this to me reeks of someone who would seek to control their partner. Lots of men go for comparatively young women because they know they are easy to manipulate.

Obviously not in all cases! But to me it's a no.

"What you have now" being, from your previous post, no strings sex with a woman half his age?

I can easily see why he wouldn't want more than that. There's no future in this 'relationship'. Dump him and find a man closer to your own age.

@IcedPurple yes exactly that!

I will start by saying that my DH is only 2 years older than me, but I do have a thing for older men and I have 2 strong parental role models.
OP I wouldn't think twice about it tbh, age is just a number one way or another they are both getting something out of the relationship. They either truelove love each other or the man is rich and he gets a beautiful girlfriend while she gets a men with a lot of money that buys her what she wants.
Sometimes you do find the power dynamic is off and that controlling men go for young vulnerable women, but generally the women are tougher than the simp man.

Age isn’t just a number

that sort of difference your life experiences would be hugely different

lots of men seem to find their true love with a women much younger 🙄

I'm 36 and my husband is 59. I was not missing a strong paternal figure nor did I need his money as has been suggested up thread - in fact I earn more than he does and had my own properties before we met and married. We have been together 10 years, have two children aged 2 and 6. We enjoy the same things, have the same values in life and are very happy. Did I ever imagine marrying someone 20 odd years older than me? No. Do I care what other people think? Also no.

I was a 22 year old woman with a 42 year old man. I am now a 32 year old woman, with the same 52 year old man and we couldn't be happier - I genuinely mean that! I absolutely worship the ground he walks on, he adores me. We have started a family, despite him having an adult son who is 29.
No daddy / parent issues here whatsoever!
I assumed it would be a fling - thank my lucky stars it wasn't!
We sometimes get the assumptions that he's the parent - thankfully he can laugh about it!

It's a no from me. If one person was a fully grown adult while the other was born/was a small child I find it creepy.

I think 10-15 max is ok but when someone is old enough/young enough to be your parent/child it's weird.

Maybe because I'm 42 with a 21 year old son I think that way?

If it was the other way round, let say 28 year old man and 50 year old woman, while I can see the advantages, I'd be bloody terrified that young man would run off with a woman his own age one day. I'm sure that happens to women with older men too. Yes I know no relationships has any guarantees but going into it with such an imbalance in the first place seems risky.

Theres Aaron and Sam Johnson of course, but thats one weird relationship - she met him when he was 17 and a friend of his parents, and he doesn't speak to his parents at all now.

I felt the 'ick' at such relationships until
I developed a crush on Joe Keery from Stranger Things.

I am 42 and he is 30 so not as bad but still
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It's not for me. I would think it was weird but not say anything, so long as it's all legal

None of my business really as long as they're happy.
Would you judge a 50 year old woman with a 25 year old man more harshly than a a 50 year old man with a 25 year old woman?
On a personal level I'm not sure I could date somebody half my age because we'd have very different interests, friendship groups and lifestyles. I suppose though that wouldn't always be the case.

Who said that?

I mentioned that scenario because the post so far was all about older men with younger women.

Daddy issues
Creepy
Doing it for the money/ convenience
Weird

Take your pick

lol at getting pension forecasts!
I'm 52 and I want to be able to enjoy the next stage of life, not feel some sort of apology for being ''old''
I wouldn't be able to value being a youthful 52 if I were dating a 26 year old. Oh I just couldn't imagine it.

Just couldn't be bothered with the various awkward feelings and issues it might throw up.

Thanks everyone.

it’s definitely not for money or anything like that. I just feel a strong attraction to him.

He lives very close to me so I feel for him it’s just easy when he wants sex. I don’t think there is anything else to it for him

Utterly grim.

I do agree about the power imbalance but I think that’s one of the reasons he enjoys it

@Purplebuntingg if you ended it and went no contact it'd be really hard for about 4 weeks, of course, you're human, but then, for the sake of those few tough weeks you'd then be free to meet somebody you sees you, understands what you want and wants that too! supports you and wants the best for you!

It is possible if you walk away from crap immediately. You're still young. Value youself. Don't doubt that value. If it's not right, walk away. And don't tell yourself that that's hard or cold or cruel.

Men so often have their own agenda and they're rigid in it.

Women are made to feel bad for having an agenda!

If yours is to meet somebody who sees you for who you are and loves you then walk away from this character.

Not sure how to go about things I have tried to step back a few times and pull away but he seems to have a way of words and a charm to keep me going back