Cinema stopping kids in suits from coming in - Minions

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DS & his friend (both 13) had tickets this pm for Minions, Rise of Gru

Like lots of people per TikTok, they dressed up in suits/ties - just for fun
Got to cinema and were told they couldn't come in because of what they were wearing

DS called me upset and DH went down to see if he could sort it. Found 5 grown men standing over them and a few other kids, shouting at them that they needed to leave and they were not allowed in. Kids felt very intimidated

No dress code visible in the cinema or on the website

DH asked if they had misbehaved and was told no, we just don't like this suit thing as some of the people on TikTok have kicked off
DH pointed out, they hadn't kicked off, just wanted to watch the film, so what was the problem. Stoney silence
He took them outside, took their jackets & ties off & they went back in 5 minutes later and were admitted by a different member of staff

Is it just me or is this ridiculous? And pathetic for them to treat kids like that

I really want to complain but wanted the MN population to vote on if you think they were BU or not

YANBU - cinema staff were out of order & I should complain
YABU - don't complain

Accurate

Hi
Well I don't think you're being completely unreasonable as if they hadn't done something why should they be judged. However, I see it from the cinemas point of view of they are trying to eliminate any Tik tok trend that may happen before it happens I.e shouting, being a nuisance etc. Because for example, the allow these boys (although I really don't get the trend) and they cause disruption, they will 1. Have to remove them which will not only cause further disruption but kids nowadays tend to be cheeky and the staff maybe subjected to backlash, 2. It's disrupting younger kids who may have their first experience at the pictures or having to listen to possible inappropriate language. 3. Other parents may complain and the cinema would feel obligated to refund which is not fair on the pics as they will lose profit... then that could have a knock on effect and increase pricing to cover that in the future. So overall, I think they were right to prevent any misbehaviour and not allowing boys in that are following this silly tik tok trend. I took my wee one to the pics at the weekend to see it and these boys walked in with suits and me and my friend who was also with me looked at each other and didn't understand why they were dressed like that... until Today we found out why. But they didn't cause any disruption thankfully but I would not be happy if they did as I would not want my child being distrusted and running his time at the cinema

Apparently cinemas are fed up (and out of pocket) with having to refund the other cinema goers who are complaining because this Tik Tok trend is ruining their enjoyment of the film.

I understand the cinemas point of view, but as OP was not aware, they should have been explicit about their rules before the performance preferably when the tickets were purchased

Except it’s not an accurate account of what happened to the OP and her DS is it? Because she didn’t send her DS in a suit in defiance of the cinema saying he wouldn’t be let in. She didn’t know about any such rule.

He knows right from wrong thanks, always taught him that

He was copying the suits thing, had no idea about the disruption - and per many other posters and the news articles plenty of people have just done the suits thing and behaved absolutely fine

Some have been twats - but not all

My issue was with the cinema not putting any information regarding dress restrictions on the door, their website or social media - so people only found out when they arrived

We didn't go storming down - dh popped down (luckily we are 5 mins away) picked up their jackets and ties and came home whilst they watched the film!

Except it’s not an accurate account of what happened to the OP and her DS is it? Because she didn’t send her DS in a suit in defiance of the cinema saying he wouldn’t be let in. She didn’t know about any such rule

the film was released on 01/07 and OP posted on 02/07. It’s unfortunate her dc were caught up in an evolving situation but once she was aware of it then I maintain she was UR to consider complaining to the cinema because her expectations are UR.

This particular conversation has evolved too and I believe my summary is accurate in that context.

But my post, that you’ve put in bold, is true isn’t it?

I posted it because someone posted ‘accurate’ after your little summary. I thought it fair to point out that it’s not accurate of the OP’s situation. It did look rather as if you were applying your summary of ‘some parents’ to the OP.

'Accurate' suggests truth and exactitude, the summary does not represent those things, it is just your point of view!

He knows right from wrong thanks, always taught him that
Oh God, this old chestnut!!
Most kids know right from wrong.
I think it's ridiculous for any parent to have total belief that their teen is always right and will always do the right thing.
Young people like to be part of the crowd and will often do daft things. They give in to peer pressure, they make mistakes, they don't always think ahead and realise what happens next. They arent bad or mean harm but will think their tomfoolery is harmless.
When a parent tells me their kid knows the difference between right and wrong I believe them. I dont necessary believe that the child always does the right thing though.
I had an open mind with my kids when they were teens as well. Good job I did at times!🤣🤣🤣

Someone posted ‘accurate’ three days and (showing for me) 11 pages of conversation. I thought the implication that the conversation had moved on massively from the OP was obvious enough not to need spelling out. And yes I was including the OP I suppose, I don’t think she’s changed her stance throughout the thread has she?

I already addressed your post in the context of only considering the OP as a stand alone post.

Accurate' suggests truth and exactitude, the summary does not represent those things, it is just your point of view!

@Goldenbear well obviously, what else did you think it was? I wasn’t submitting a formal piece of evidence backed by science and reviewed by experts to court fgs. What do you think a forum is?

This whole thread/majority of the forum is just ‘points of view’. 🙄

So why would you misuse the word accurate then as it has nothing to do with accuracy, it would have been better to state, 'subjective' as that is all it is!

I didn’t . It was an opinion of my opinion.

Your eagerness to put the boot in is showing.

I’m the mysterious user of the word “accurate”. I think I would be accurate in believing I used the word “accurate” in an accurate manner.

Vue cinemas are holding special Gentleminions showings at certain cinemas

That sounds really sensible - let the teens dress up and have fun (though hopefully not wreck the joint!) and make it clear to families that these screenings are primarily aimed at them.

This thread will go on longer than the trend.
Storm in a tea cup!