To not want in law's down when we're sick.

[Mollie5]

Me DH and our toddler have been sick for the last few days. We've all had lack of sleep and been vomitting etc and just been resting.

Currently I am in my PJs and I stink of fever and just look really bad, been awake all night as our toddler has just wanted to be held.

My MIL who is very judgemental is coming round for the day with SIL, BIL and FIL to see us. She specifically said she's coming to see DH and DD. We have a small house and are lying down on the sofa and the house is a mess. In the past she has snooped around my house to see if there's any dirt etc when I usually keep my house clean. How am we supposed to rest when we only have limited space and they're all coming.

I feel really overwhelmed with everything and the last thing I want is all of them around.

It's too late to say anything because they said they're on their way. They live in the nearby village.

I don't know what I expect from putting this up but I just needed somewhere to rant, I feel so exhausted today.

Just tell them!! Blimey. Hope you feel better soon.

If you have a LFT do test yourselves…most of my early symptoms a few weeks ago were vomiting, the runs and exhaustion. Fever and aches kicked in a few days later , then the cough …

I'd text them to explain that to to daughter have a virus, so to postpone the visit. If they still turn up, stay in bed with your daughter.

For God's sake just say it's not convenient at the moment because we're all vomiting constantly and don't want to see anyone. She sounds like she's got the hide of a rhinoceros.

Go upstairs. Don't clean a thing. They'll catch your sickness bug and maybe next time they'll stay away.

I have no idea why your DH didn’t just say no, but as he hasn’t I would head upstairs and let him deal with his family.

Why on earth would they want to visit a house where there's a vomiting bug?!

Just say 'Sorry, it's not convenient today, will let you know when we are up to visitors again' and turn off your phone.

I never get these posts
Just go upstairs to bed
They are DH parents so DHs responsibility to sort out
If my MIL came round she would most likely clean the house if I'm not well and not bat an eye lid... she is an amazing women to be fair... however she would never judge the state of my house

She specifically said she's coming to see DH and DD.

Let DH crack on and stay in bed. Ideally he will say you are all ill and postpone. If not leave the cleaning stuff out so maybe MIL etc can get stuck in and help out rather than heckling from the sidelines.

Just for the record, OP said that her husband has been sick too. Not sure why so many people have missed that. More fool him then for being the doormat in the family.

You could, of course, open the front door and be sick on her shoes.

text them "We are VOMITING. Do not come. We will not answer the door."

Or, hand DD over to them as soon as they come in and say "thankyou so much for coming to help, DH and I are both so exhausted we are going to go to bed for a few hours. Sorry if she vomits on you"

And then leave them all to it.

Personally I'd just make DH ring them and say you are all vomiting and they can't come in.
What madness is this anyway? Who the bloody hell wants to see someone while they're vomiting?! I'm running away as fast as I can in the other direction!

Hope you feel better soon OP

If they know you're that ill and your DH is too scared to tell them to go away then fine. Off to bed with you to rest x

Why has DH not told his parents no? He can entertain them etc. You get some sleep. They'll be gone soon enough.

How bizarre.
Why didn’t you or DH text the minute they said they were coming and say ‘sorry you must have misunderstood- we all have a nasty vomiting bug, we’ll see you when we are better’.

Go to bed. Let DH answer the door and send them away.

"Thank you so much for coming while we are so ill and taking the others out for a while so that me and daughter can recover in peace! So kind."

Go to bed. Honestly Who cares what they think?

If it's too late to stop them now, tell DH to take them to the pub for lunch or to for a walk in the park with a picnic.

Vomiting bugs are highly infectious. Don’t let them in.

Just another person saying YANBU, they are completely unreasonable expecting to visit when you are sick.

Message this.
Throwning up and have very upset Stomach, all of us in the house.
We will not be opening the door to let in you as we REFUSE to make you ill.
Will see you all when better.
Thanks for understanding.

Open the door, let them all in, don't do a thing to play hostess and when they're annoyed enough that the house isn't already pristine you can pull a full Linda Blair, which should ensure a good 3 months peace (minimum).

I don’t understand why you’re even thinking about this. They’re your husbands problem. He can clean and tidy. Does he not contribute his share to chores and parenting?

How intrusive and rude!
It doesn't bother them! What about you!!

How selfish say absolutely not

@redskyatnight I’m sure the other people in the pub will be really grateful for DH turning up with a stomach bug