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Strange appointment with GP - should I have said I'm pregnant (again)?

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Blankel · 30/06/2022 19:43

I had a GP appointment today for a UTI, I'm 36 weeks pregnant (so I'm very pregnant). I was asked to provide a urine sample on arrival. I said to the GP that I'm 36 weeks pregnant and I also said that my midwife had tested my urine and said there are nitrates and protein in there and that she had sent me to them for antibiotics. Then the GP asked for my symptoms and I told her. She then asked me to get on the scales, which I did and it said I'm 70.2kg, which she calculated as a BMI of 28 and told me my BMI is overweight. She then asked to measure my waist, which I said ok to, and it was 99cm. She told me my height to waist ratio was very high (my waist is just under 2/3 of my height) and that I should "work on that", recommending that I try to go for a daily walk and work on my diet to improve it - and that it might ease my symptoms. She then said to wait for the urine sample results and I'd get a phone call if I need antibiotics.

I feel a bit confused. I'm very clearly heavily pregnant so surely the whole issue of having a skewed height to waist ratio isn't a problem? Or am I missing something? Should I have reiterated that I'm pregnant? I didn't want to sound like an idiot...it was really obvious that I'm pregnant - she literally was measuring my waist so can't have missed my bump! Should I be trying to lose weight?

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downbythewoods · 30/06/2022 21:41

She's lost it.

VaccineSticker · 30/06/2022 21:41

Forgot to add that you need to complain about your useless doc. Do they really have a degree in common sense even?

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Blankel · 30/06/2022 21:43

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 30/06/2022 21:41

I don’t understand why you didn’t say, in reply to the waist measurement/overweight comment, ‘Er, you do realise that I’m pregnant? 36 weeks?’

As stupid as it sounds, I just completely second-guessed myself and thought that there's no way she doesn't know I'm pregnant so clearly I'm in the wrong to think this is odd. I just managed to convince myself that there must be a logical explanation and if I pointed out that I'm pregnant then I'd end up looking stupid.

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cyclamenqueen · 30/06/2022 21:44

Blankel · 30/06/2022 21:38

Thanks everyone - I started this thread as I was a bit bemused and didn't expect to actually end up quite worried. I'm thinking I should call the hospital but DH thinks I shouldn't (he says he feels unwell too so we probably just have the same bug 🙄). I'll keep trying to figure it out - thanks again.

A’bug’ in late pregnancy us quite different from an adult male feeling under the weather .

If the midwife told you to see a Dr then it’s important , please don’t ignore it OP. Just think how you would feel if the worst happened … it nearly did to me . Thankfully my GP had his wits about him and sent me straight to the hospital but it could have been a close call. Are you willing to take that risk? Is he?

Dreamingofwalden · 30/06/2022 21:46

OP I feel you are still not treating this seriously. This could be dangerous for you and for your baby. Please go to the hospital and get antibiotics.

Pixie2015 · 30/06/2022 21:47

As a GP this really upsets and frightens me - you need to call the practice tomorrow to speak with a professional who will recognise your pregnant like others have said - I would also ask to speak with the practice manager

TeddyTonks · 30/06/2022 21:48

Don't 'keep trying to figure it out' OP. Phone triage for advice. I'm betting they'll want you in.

fabicelolly · 30/06/2022 21:48

You’ve just been told you’re at risk of pre-eclampsia and you’ve said you’ll keep trying to figure this out??? Call a taxi if DH won’t drive you and get to a hospital or walk in centre.

dawngreen · 30/06/2022 21:50

I always feel doctors and chemists have jumped on the money band wagon. The doctors latest thing is to push the weight issue. Its like every one has developed a weight issue over night. Nothing surprises me any more.

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Blankel · 30/06/2022 21:50

fabicelolly · 30/06/2022 21:48

You’ve just been told you’re at risk of pre-eclampsia and you’ve said you’ll keep trying to figure this out??? Call a taxi if DH won’t drive you and get to a hospital or walk in centre.

Sorry, I meant to say when I was reading through and forgot by the time I was commenting. I don't have pre-eclampsia. My blood pressure is fine, I have a cuff at home and the midwife wasn't concerned about pre-eclampsia on Sunday. It's just the UTI that's making me feel unwell.

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namechange30455 · 30/06/2022 21:51

Why on earth didn't you go to the hospital when your GP said they couldn't see you til Thursday?!

Stop being so bloody passive and go and get checked out ffs. You could be really poorly.

namechange30455 · 30/06/2022 21:52

Cross posted with your explanation about pre-eclampsia! But still, please go and get checked out.

LittleOwl153 · 30/06/2022 21:52

Call 111 they will either get you in touch with the maternity unit or may be able to get someone to prescribe the antibiotics assuming they your midwife and the 'gp' have noted the need for sample testing on the system.

Tell DH to stop competing with you for symptoms and start looking out for the health of (I assume!) His baby and his wife!!

TeddyTonks · 30/06/2022 21:52

Honestly op, you're being really bloody stupid. Phone triage!

L0bstersLass · 30/06/2022 21:53

Blankel · 30/06/2022 21:38

Thanks everyone - I started this thread as I was a bit bemused and didn't expect to actually end up quite worried. I'm thinking I should call the hospital but DH thinks I shouldn't (he says he feels unwell too so we probably just have the same bug 🙄). I'll keep trying to figure it out - thanks again.

It doesn't matter if he feels ill or not, you're the one that's carrying a baby.
Phone the hospital for advice and do it now.

BeardieWeirdie · 30/06/2022 21:58

Your poor husband doesn’t want to lose any attention he’s getting for his man flu. This is ridiculous. Stop being so passive and prioritise your baby’s health.

legalseagull · 30/06/2022 21:59

Call 111 and get a call back from a GP who isn't a complete weirdo. They can prescribe over the phone.

Then email a complaint to the practice manager

SherbertLemonDrop · 30/06/2022 21:59

You must be very laid back 😳 hope you are ok

WonderingWanda · 30/06/2022 22:02

That's unbelievable op, what a useless gp. Was she newly qualified and full of nerves or something? Quite worrying that she didn't listen to you and thought measuring your waist and lecturing you about bmi was the right thing to do. Please do complain about her, ring and ask to speak to a more experienced gp urgently tomorrow.

IdiotCreatures · 30/06/2022 22:02

You need to see someone who knows what they are doing ASAP!!
www.healthline.com/health/pregnancy/protein-in-urine-pregnancy

KissThaRain · 30/06/2022 22:03

Thanks for the advice doc and when I’ve had baby I may start considering moving to another practice - in my head that’s what I’d say but reality it works have been erm well it’s all interesting but you know I’m pregnant so ye my weight has risen and my tummy is bigger

AntiHop · 30/06/2022 22:06

On your pregnancy notes there should be a list of contact numbers about who to contact when. There should be a maternity department you can contact for out of hours urgent issues. Call them now.

And please make a formal complaint about that gp.

Fluffygreenslippers · 30/06/2022 22:09

Phone 111, and they should be able to book you an appointment at your hospitals urgent care centre. I did this recently as I was pregnant with a uti and not yet registered with a gp (moved house). They tested my urine then and there and gave me a script for antibs.
Your gp sounds drunk.

Calyx72 · 30/06/2022 22:10

I agree. Formal complaint right away AFTER you have had some proper medical input

Littletikes41 · 30/06/2022 22:18

Blankel · 30/06/2022 21:38

Thanks everyone - I started this thread as I was a bit bemused and didn't expect to actually end up quite worried. I'm thinking I should call the hospital but DH thinks I shouldn't (he says he feels unwell too so we probably just have the same bug 🙄). I'll keep trying to figure it out - thanks again.

Please go to the hospital for antibiotics. My untreated UTI at 36w turned into sepsis and preterm labour. Ds and I were extremely unwell when he was born.