This is why people ask for cash

[antelopevalley]

I did some babysitting on Saturday night. When the couple got back they said sorry they didn't have any cash and they would transfer me the money. It is Tuesday and in spite of giving them my bank details, and a reminder text, still no payment.
If I ever babysit for them again (not sure I will now), I will say I will only do so if they pay cash that evening. Sadly this kind of way of operating seems common amongst middle-class people. It may not be a big deal for you to wait days for a relatively small sum of money, but it is for many others.

1. Don’t accept another babysitting job from them until they pay you for. The last one.
2. If you accept a job from them, demand to see the cash they will pay you BEFORE THEY LEAVE THEIR CHILDREN WITH YOU.

What's with all the pro-cash posts this week? Have we been infiltrated by some bizarre lobbying group?

Absolutely outrageous, do not let them
get away with this. Total entitlement and privileged bullshit. Agree you only tend to get this from middle class people who have never had to worry about money.

It’s common decency to pay at the time of service, @antelopevalley, don’t let anyone tell you any different.
And dragging their feet in paying you is inexcusable.

I never pay cash in hand as, if I were deemed to be facilitating tax evasion, I could lose m my job. However, I make sure I do online BACS or PayPal transfers for services as soon as they are delivered. This couple should do the same but if they don't you should absolutely remind them. If they have genuinely forgotten they will be grateful for the reminder. If they are being CF then all the more reason to "remind" them! Hope you get paid asap.

I did loads of babysitting in my teens. Always was paid cash on the night. You should demand from them until they cough up, then seriously consider not using them again.

Assertiveness comes with practice. Give it a shot, it's a useful life skill to develop and may surprise yourself.

Same thing happened to me. I used to clean this lady’s house who had 5 children. Often she would just ‘pop to town’ and leave me with all 5 kids.... then miraculously have no cash to pay me but always said she’d ‘sort me out next time’... needless to say I was only ever paid the odd £10 here or £20 there, never once the full amount agreed. I learned never ever to trust people and quickly fucked her off. It is horrible that people do this. I couldn’t live with myself not paying something I owed. It’s a shitty feeling.

Agree with the above rooster though about assertiveness, it really is a necessary skill. It takes a lot of practice and you feel like a bitch. But you’re not being a bitch for knowing your worth and calling people out on their bullshit when they take advantage.

Poster.... not rooster obviously haha

She's not, she's making it easier on herself, she feels uncomfortable going there so by sending the message first she knows they are expecting her and SHE may feel more comfortable going round.

I understand that when asking for money, even though you are due it, can make you feel a bit awkward. Try turning up at their door and ask if they have transferred it, you haven’t received anything into your account and just want to double check they used the correct details. It is possible that they have sent the money to the wrong account; been there, bought the tee shirt 4 TIMES!!! Good luck ☘️

Definitely not a class thing - I’ve freelanced for multimillionaires who have happily benefited from my work then ignored my piddling amount invoices.

One was a woman who did talks about being a female entrepreneur and lifting other women up. Never paid me in the end but it was very satisfying asking when she was going to pay my 6 month old invoice at the Q&A section of one of her presentations.

I hope they pay up soon OP.

I’m posting for those who seem sceptical that some bank cards don’t have any numbers on them. Here’s my card. It just has my name on the front and the back has contact details for the bank. It’s a UK bank.

Did you check the bank details you sent them?

I run extra-curricular classes and one of the only people who has ever asked for a refund (she didn't get one) because she is choosing to take her daughter somewhere else that day (the class is still running) is extremely well-off judging by where they live and the fact she has asked for private lessons in addition to the class. Rich people stay rich by being tight with money!

If still not paid message to say that you will add 10% daily to their bill including the days already missed. I always pay trades etc before they leave the premises by cash or bacs never make them wait. After all the supermarket won't wait for payment when you need to do your foid shop!

Barclays do, mine has my details on.

natwest dont
see we can all have different banks who do different things

She didn't have her bank details with her.

People ask for cash so they don't declare it for tax purposes.

I wanted cash as I thought I would be more likely to get it on the day. I always ask for cash when babysitting.
Still not got my money. I will never babysit for this family again.

@Fancylike That must've been a very satisfying moment! What did she say? Did she pay up in the end?

That is outrageous that she hasn't paid you yet. What are you going to do about this? I hope you're not going to write it off.

I don't know. I am not very assertive face to face with people.