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This is why people ask for cash

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antelopevalley · 29/06/2022 10:37

I did some babysitting on Saturday night. When the couple got back they said sorry they didn't have any cash and they would transfer me the money. It is Tuesday and in spite of giving them my bank details, and a reminder text, still no payment.
If I ever babysit for them again (not sure I will now), I will say I will only do so if they pay cash that evening. Sadly this kind of way of operating seems common amongst middle-class people. It may not be a big deal for you to wait days for a relatively small sum of money, but it is for many others.

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NahNoWay · 29/06/2022 10:40

That's so rude.

Tell them you're going food shopping at 1pm and relalqy need the money transfered by then.

ShirleyPhallus · 29/06/2022 10:41

That’s absolutely shit of them. I’d text every day and ask them to transfer it, don’t be bullied in to letting this go.

Meraas · 29/06/2022 10:41

Bastards. Don't let them get away it. Could you go bang on their door this evening?

Noisyprat · 29/06/2022 10:42

In future specify cash or ask if they use internet banking, then they can transfer it whilst you are there. I would be popping around to remind them.

PutinIsAWarCriminal · 29/06/2022 10:43

You should have to be going back to beg for the money they owe you. They should be thoroughly embarrassed.

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antelopevalley · 29/06/2022 10:43

I think if they have not given me the money by the weekend, I will ask DP to go to their door for the money. I am not that assertive.

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Wilkolampshade · 29/06/2022 10:43

Well I voted YANBU but tbh, you needed to have payment conditions sorted before and insist on payment on the doorstep, awkward as this is.
But I can't say it's a class thing. DH is largely self employed andd all sorts of people try and delay payment. In his 25 odd years of experience the only thing they seem to have in common is they're generally wankers.

sslz82pe · 29/06/2022 10:43

Keep contacting them until they transfer the money.

PutinIsAWarCriminal · 29/06/2022 10:44

Shouldn't - epic typo!

VestPantsandSocks · 29/06/2022 10:44

Send your DP today!

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antelopevalley · 29/06/2022 10:44

The annoying thing is one of us is going to have to make a journey to go to their door.
I did it cheaply for them too.
I shouldn't have to chase for payment.

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antelopevalley · 29/06/2022 10:45

Wilkolampshade · 29/06/2022 10:43

Well I voted YANBU but tbh, you needed to have payment conditions sorted before and insist on payment on the doorstep, awkward as this is.
But I can't say it's a class thing. DH is largely self employed andd all sorts of people try and delay payment. In his 25 odd years of experience the only thing they seem to have in common is they're generally wankers.

They got home about 11.30 pm and then said oh sorry we do not have any cash. We will transfer the money. I did not have my bank account details with me so had to send this when I got home. I am not sure what else I could have done.

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MintJulia · 29/06/2022 10:46

Send them another text saying you need to pay your dcs' school lunches

GoodThinkingMax · 29/06/2022 10:46

Can you remind them via a public message on FaceBook?

nuclear option

Drywhitefruitycidergin · 29/06/2022 10:46

That's terrible behaviour op.
Bet they are waiting for payday tomorrow.....
Definitely don't work for them again.

DenholmElliot1 · 29/06/2022 10:48

antelopevalley · 29/06/2022 10:43

I think if they have not given me the money by the weekend, I will ask DP to go to their door for the money. I am not that assertive.

For goodness sake please don't send your partner round their house to ask for the money. If she's home alone or anything she won't like it and it's unprofessional anyway.

You're right though, you shouldn't have to go round there - what a pair of cheapskates. Do they have form for this?

Littlebirdyouaresosweet · 29/06/2022 10:48

I feel for you op. Cleaner here and it is my most affluent customers who forget to pay..

Miraclejelly · 29/06/2022 10:48

Don't ever consider baby sitting for them ever again.

Text them every day until they have paid you. Let them know if they have not paid by X date then your services will no longer be available to them.

SmallestInTheClass · 29/06/2022 10:49

Really sorry for you and it's unreasonable that they haven't paid - you're right that this probably doesn't feel like a lot of money to them. Hardly anyone I know pays cash for anything though (even our local ice cream van takes card payments now). I'd have expected to give my paypal/bank details in advance if I wanted paying straight away.

mummyh2016 · 29/06/2022 10:51

It's not even Tuesday, it's Wednesday. Absolute piss takers.

CatchingSocks · 29/06/2022 10:52

I always do a bank transfer to our babysitters in the cab on the way home. Good sitters are like gold dust. Text them requesting immediate payement

ReneBumsWombats · 29/06/2022 10:54

With payment and banking apps, they should have been able to pay you before you got home.

xogossipgirlxo · 29/06/2022 10:56

Have money to go out, don't have money to pay babysitter. How classy.

SuperTea · 29/06/2022 10:56

I'd send a message now saying, haven't had the money yet. DH and I will be passing later, we'll pop in to collect it.

Unless the money's with you within the hour, don't work for them again.

Pyewhacket · 29/06/2022 11:01

Don’t text, call them. Ask them when is it convenient to collect the cash altho you’d prefer bank transfer as promised.

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