To think mums are entitled to nights off

[Areyoumine]

So I have been on 2 boozy nights since my son was born 2 years ago, I keep seeing threads of women that say they wouldn’t do that. As long as my son is being taken care of when I go out with DH, is there really a problem with getting a bit drunk (would never come home drunk to them)

They wouldn’t starve for a day. They’d go without for the day. That’s exactly what you’re saying about my sons sleep - You say my son would just be ‘sad’ except he wouldn’t. He’d be sick and wouldn’t sleep until I presume he would eventually be so exhausted he wouldn’t be able to remain awake. But according to you, that’s acceptable? And it’s my choice that I don’t allow that to happen.
I didn’t judge you on this thread, I supported you. Shame you can’t do the same for other mothers whose situations you are not in.

i do, but with compromises.. he's nearly 16 and i'm divorced from his dad.. so the compromise on our routine now is if i'm out and mom is babysitting, i call and say good night over the phone.. and then he waits up to come say goodnight when i get in. (i'm never out late, i need my sleep lol) i usually save my going out for when he's at his dads though.

But yeah.. people who think babies could settle for another parent really have no clue and should thank their lucky stars they could have either parent do bedtime.

he would get so exhausted that he wouldn’t be able to stay Awake….exactly

you are choosing not to do that. Not feeding a child is abuse, letting a loving grandparent look after them for a night is not.

I don’t agree. I think to knowingly let myself make himself ill is the same thing. You haven’t witnessed it, so you don’t get to judge his reaction. It is more than just ‘sad’. You have no idea what you’re talking about.

Of course I know what I am talking about as I have witnessed it with my own son and it is painful, this is is why they just let him stay awake playing as it is pointless to attempt to settle him.

I’m not letting my son be repeatedly sick, no matter what you say. If you do, that’s your business.

But you still have no right to judge me, which you are doing. You’re absolutely judging my situation and telling me what would or wouldn’t happen with my son. I’ve tried, I know. You’ve never met him. So next time you decide to start a thread banging on about people judging your parenting, maybe look in the mirror first and make sure you’re not being as judgmental as you have been towards me. Enjoy your nights out.

I haven’t judged you, I have told you numerous times that I don’t. There is nothing wrong with that choice.

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I find women are often more likely to get judged with the "oh whose got the kids then" if you're out past a certain hour enjoying life whereas with men it's like that doesn't even run through anyone's mind because apparently mums are the default parent!

@Tee20x so annoying!

please send your ‘friend’ my way! Me and DH recently left our 5 yo and our 3 week old with Nanna for a date night 😂

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@BiscoffSundae

at no point did I say anything about single mums being martyrs 🤷‍♀️