To ask if your DH or DW were having therapy

[BiFoldChampion]

Would you ask them how it’s going? I’m having psychotherapy - it’s quite full on and I’m exhausted after my sessions.

My DH is aware I’m having this therapy but he’s not asked me once how it’s going?

Would you ask your DW or DH how it was going?

I will thank you

There is no official difference, it's just what a practitioner chooses to call themselves.

My DH is currently having therapy, when he started I told him if he wanted to discuss it or tell me anything it's up to him and I will follow his lead
That way he knows I care, but I don't want him to feel pressured into discussing his therapy if he doesn't want to.

I wouldn't want my husband to ask anything about it, It is mine and mine alone, I would not be up for discussing it.

I don’t talk to my husband about my counselling sessions and would feel uncomfortable if he wanted to know what was said.

He knows broadly what it’s about (traumatic upbringing) and is happy to talk on the odd occasion I want to. I’d leave well alone unless he wants to share.

Yes I asked and got my head bitten off as he was mentally drained and emotional afterwards. Now I don't ask, but sometimes get accused of not caring. It's tough to know what is the best thing to do when nothing is well received. Don't be too hard on your partner, I'm sure they care, and are struggling with how best to support you

It's a difficult one, as it is an intensely personal thing and you don't want to sound like you are asking for details or digging for information

I didn't ask my husband how his was going but I had said up front that I wasn't going to and if he wanted to talk about it he would need to start the conversation

But I’ve had counselling where they just listen - whereas this person is helping me see things differently - giving me some solutions/methods of coping. Helping me understand where I’m coming from.

There are tons of different types of counselling/psychotherapy, but "psychotherapy" itself is undefined and is just another word for counselling. I'm glad you have someone that you feel is helping more now.

How are you doing, @BiFoldChampion ?

I have been in your situation. I'm finding it interesting to read. Don't rush into to couple's counselling. You will benefit from working by yourself, first. It may not be appropriate.

Hi @picklemewalnuts it’s going well. DH actually touched on it as I just mentioned in passing that I was having a session. He said how is it going and actually I froze. I just mumbled something off so realised perhaps I didn’t want to be asked. It’s all very confusing.

heavy duty session yesterday around birth and post natal trauma (two babies in NICU). Very sad session and I’m still physically exhausted today, just aching.

@picklemewalnuts i hope your sessions are going well.

Thanks @ChaosMoon i hope I’m with the right person. So far so good. Having to dig deep every session and much more exhausting than I anticipated.

It's good that he has acknowledged it. I think that's important. You don't want to rake over it, as PPs say it's private and it's exhausting.
You do want him to recognise you are struggling and care how you are.

And thanks for your good wishes- mine was many years ago, and I still reap the benefits every day.