...to feel roleplay is fairly normal?

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DH and I have been together 15 years, our sex life eventually fell into a lull but about 6 months ago we started role-playing and since then it's been like it was when we first got together. We're totally 'caught up' in each other all over again and our relationship has never been better.

However a couple of nights ago I was talking to two good friends and the topic of role play came up... I never even hinted that this has recently rejuvenated my life but the general response within the conversation was my friends both laughing/mocking it. One even said it's only for 'deviants and weirdos'.

AIBU to say it's actually way more 'normal' and regular? Or am I unknowingly a sexual deviant? 😂

(And yes, I have name-changed for this!)

Another one just here to find out which programme

However a couple of nights ago I was talking to two good friends and the topic of role play came up... I never even hinted that this has recently rejuvenated my life but the general response within the conversation was my friends both laughing/mocking it. One even said it's only for 'deviants and weirdos

But unless you were planning to have them join you then it really doesn't matter what they think. You're having a good time which is what's important!
Personally I could never completely throw myself into role play and ended up feeling silly...but it is pretty common I think!

Yeah I think roleplay is very very normal. Clearly you enjoy it as does your OH. Ignore your prudish friends- you know to never discuss it with them in future.

Ahhh fuck it. We do something quite similar, not quite roleplay but not too different. We have amazing sex because of it so who cares!

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But no, I don't think it's that uncommon or weird.

"All I can think of is Claire and Phil Dumphy, sorry."

ME too!!! Clive and ???? - damn, forgot her role play name!

I enjoy it, its not meant to be serious, having a laugh is very much allowed. Our favourite is me dressing as Buffy the vampire slayer while my husband is a vampire. I might be the slayer but I'm always the one who ends up being impaled...

If that's what you're into then who are we to judge. It's not for me personally.

Come on, tell us which show!

Also intrigued as to what you do? Nosey, I know.

OK, I don't dare Google 'Shibari' so cam someone tell me what it is?

This reminds me of Rodney trotter and his wife on only fools - glad it's working for you OP!

Ken and Deidre???

Ropes and very specific ways of tying them I think.

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It made me think of Dawn and Pete in Gavin and Stacey, role playing in the hotel bar.

I don't think it's weird or anything but I can't imagine doing it myself.

I'd be embarrassed. I would hate it! But I wouldn't think anybody who could pull it off was a deviant or a weirdo, just a bit more relaxed than me.

It's not our thing but it sounds harmless enough.

...Ok, it's Outlander 😊😊

(And yes, I do honestly have a spring in my step in Tesco 😂)

Ah fair enough. I'm intrigued though, how do you get into character enough to get fully immersed as it where?

Why not? I bought DH a gladiator outfit from the fancy dress shop "for carnival" 😉 so no one looked at me weirdly. I run the colluseum and accuse him of selling me 'queer giraffe' .

You can borrow that one, if you like.

In fairness, I’m not sure I’d need the full role play, DH could just whisper Sassenach in my ear and I’d be good to go!

Good for you OP! I couldn’t take my DH seriously if he started taking on a different role (even Jamie from Outlander!).

I've done it quite a bit with a couple of partners but I am quite creative in this way. I've never done full-on fancy dress though, just slipping into ways of being / storylines, etc. I find it fun and liberating but there is plenty of stuff others love that I would find too alarming to venture. Each to their own and that.

I’ve always liked the idea of role play. It’s a bit of fun isn’t it.

people saying they’d laugh, well what’s wrong with having a laugh in bed??
there are times for ‘love making’ times for quickies and times for making it a fun playful night.
don’t worry about what your friends think, if you enjoy it who cares.