Partner or teenagers being unreasonable - covid

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DP and I came back from a short holiday on Friday, last time we saw DC’s was Monday. I tested positive for covid on Saturday and immediately took myself up to the bedroom and spare room and shut the door.
DP is staying downstairs, we are both NHS so I can’t go to work but DP can as he is testing negative.
DP happened to mention to the DC’s that he had a headache at which point they told him he needed to go upstairs as he probably has covid. He has refused as he is still testing negative and they are really short at work so doesn’t want to sit in the same room as me. As I said before we are both NHS and where he works is more acute than where I work and short staffing could result in cancer surgery being cancelled.
The DC’s are furious and have spent the last hour shouting down the stairs calling him selfish. To be far I can see if from both sides. Older DC is away on holiday at the end of the week and other DC has sporting event albeit 5 weeks away, so can understand why the want their dad to isolate upstairs. On the other hand he is testing negative and coming upstairs means there will be a high chance if he hasn’t got covid now he will have if he sits with me.
so my question is should he come upstairs or stay down and risk giving the whole house covid.

Surely he is testing negative why don't they stay in there rooms and stay apart and , have windows open etc
They could have caught it anyway before you knew you were positive, have they tested ? Also its back rife now by sound of things

How old are teens?

I didn’t realise people were even still testing for covid? (I say that as someone who is quadruple jabbed and in the clinically extremely vulnerable group)! I think it’s all pointless worrying about it now, it’s everywhere. The dc could have caught it already to be honest if he’s incubating it!

I’m with your husband he’s negative. A headache could just be a a headache! As for all the shouting and furious children no way would they be yelling at him like they are. Stay 2meters apart and they wear a mask when they are near him if they want to. But until he gets a positive he can and they should be carrying in with life and your children should read up on the covid rules !

They won’t even come down for food as they are saying he has probably contaminated everything.

And i truest hope if they do get covid and your husband is still negative they don’t go shouting at him and blaming him.

They are 17 and 18

We are both NHS so still have to test if we have symptoms

If he's testing negative he should stay downstairs

At that age they're massively overreacting, and I'd expect them to have more sense than to be shouting down the stairs at someone about contamination.

A headache can just be a headache, or has everyone forgotten that? If he's still testing negative, why should he be confined to a room with someone who is positive? His work is acute, he is negative - what more is there to it?

The kids can go and stay elsewhere?

Tell them stay in their rooms and order take away for them for the next few days?

It is likely he already has it tbh

Let us know which was to vote, is YABU for him to isolate or not?

Anyway he should not isolate unless he has a positive test. I wouldn’t be able to cancel somebody’s cancer surgery just because he has a headache.

Your children need to isolate themselves if they are that bothered about trips etc. They are being unreasonable shouting at their father.

I slept in bed with hubby when contagious ( not after testing positive) and he still didn't catch it. X not a given

I'd leave them be. They can starve if they want to that will help with the sports performance

OP course thus far negative DP shouldn't be in with you and they have their own rooms to go to.

FWIW I've had it this week. I've made an attempt not to in the same room at the same time and to talk from doorways but we've all moved around the house normally and no one else seems to have it.

With the latest variants, many people I know haven’t tested positive on an LFT until around Day 5 of symptoms. Given that you have COVID and presumably your DH was with you wherever you picked it up on holiday, it seems reasonably likely he could have it too, even if testing negative.

It sounds like your DCs are being drama queens and a bit selfish about it all. Surely THEY can isolate if they’re so worried, and wear a good mask around your DH? They certainly shouldn’t be yelling at him.

But… all official rules aside, if your DH is interacting with cancer patients I sincerely hope he’s wearing the best mask known to man and has informed his supervisors of the situation at home. I know that many hospitals around us think that the official guidance is bonkers and have much more stringent isolation rules for their staff (but I’m in Canada).

Are the teenagers particularly anxious about Covid? Have they got A levels this week, or their Prom? I would ignore them if they just want to hang out in their rooms don't most teens do that anyway?.

He should have found himself a separate place to isolate. That might have meant asking the teens to bunk in together and he takes one of their rooms, but he should not have been contaminating the whole house.

Is the 18 year old doing exams still?

I understand why the teens don't want to catch it but negative is negative and they will be hanging out with people not even tearing and prevalence is high atm.

Why do you have the bedroom AND the spare room?
i get he’s testing negative but there’s no harm in staying away from the kids to be on the safe side, especially if one of them is going on holiday in the next few days.
surely it’s likely you and DH were both exposed on your holiday but his is just not showing positive yet?

I feel bad for your kids that they have been brainwashed into being so scared of something that is no danger to them.

Are people forgetting that you can be asymptomatic?

The dp is negative? How long should he have to isolate then?

I can actually see the teens' point of view. They have missed loads over the last 2 years. My 18 year old DS is totally paranoid about catching it (for the third time) and missing more stuff (like his holiday). Tbh I think it likely your DH has it. You don't test positive whilst incubating it (?) And he has been with you wherever you have (plane?)... why should they isolate. Its quite condescending to just assume all teens are happy to sit in their rooms all day.... jeez my teens are not like that at all. And when DS has had covid himself he has sat in one room for 10 days and sucked it up.... anyway that's just my opinion. You've had your holiday.....

Your DC are being ridiculous.