Partner or teenagers being unreasonable - covid

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DP and I came back from a short holiday on Friday, last time we saw DC’s was Monday. I tested positive for covid on Saturday and immediately took myself up to the bedroom and spare room and shut the door.
DP is staying downstairs, we are both NHS so I can’t go to work but DP can as he is testing negative.
DP happened to mention to the DC’s that he had a headache at which point they told him he needed to go upstairs as he probably has covid. He has refused as he is still testing negative and they are really short at work so doesn’t want to sit in the same room as me. As I said before we are both NHS and where he works is more acute than where I work and short staffing could result in cancer surgery being cancelled.
The DC’s are furious and have spent the last hour shouting down the stairs calling him selfish. To be far I can see if from both sides. Older DC is away on holiday at the end of the week and other DC has sporting event albeit 5 weeks away, so can understand why the want their dad to isolate upstairs. On the other hand he is testing negative and coming upstairs means there will be a high chance if he hasn’t got covid now he will have if he sits with me.
so my question is should he come upstairs or stay down and risk giving the whole house covid.

And couldn't you use your room and DH the spare? Then the teens cook etc....

Yep.

Contaminating the house with what? A headache?

His Covid test was negative. He doesn’t have it.

I missed that you are using the bedroom and spare room .... that seems a bit unnecessary - why do you need two rooms to yourself if you are isolating? Where is your DP meant to sleep? .

Do your kids normally overreact like this?

Why are you even shutting yourself away?

Just because it doesn't show up on a test, doesn't mean he's negative.

I was negative over Christmas and was advised by my GP to do a PCR test. (I couldn't because I can't drive the 20 miles to nearest site that had tests)

Just to answer a few questions, the spare room is just a small box room off our bedroom and has no bed. It has a TV and space for me to work tomorrow. I can go in to work but will be expected to work from home. DP slept on the sofa last night. He is worried about staffing at work. Myself and the DC’s had covid last year but DP did not get it.
no exams for DC’s but younger one has a lot of training for sporting event, it’s national level so wants to do well and could effect the choice of university they eventually go to.

Well they can stay in their bedrooms then. He isn't positive atm, there's zero reason to isolate and zero logic to sit in a room with you for a week.

Not sure if relevant, but where do you both work?

Sorry I meant can’t go to work in my previous post

They are BU.

Theres a good chance he’s got it as you’ve got it and he’s got a headache. It often takes a couple days to show on the LFT I find.

But he’s testing negative so he could genuinely have something else.
If they’re so concerned then they can stay in their room instead, especially as it’s going to be in the air now anyway.

Does the one that’s going on holiday need a negative test to fly?

If I was DP I would compromise - I wouldn’t isolate but if there’s a TV in his bedroom then I’d spend most of my time in there.
Of course they’re going to have to do the housework and cook and deliver both of your meals too 😁

@Afterfire

"I didn’t realise people were even still testing for covid?"

My DD is a Social Care manager. She's felt increasingly unwell so tested today and was positive. If she had have not bothered and gone to work she could have infected the Staff and then service users. Getting agency staff in isn't easy and unsettles the residents, especially if they are Ill. My youngest works within the NHS on very vulnerable wards and has to test, as do the other staff. It depends on your job and personal circumstances. If you are ECV haven't you been sent the NHS test, so you are then automatically referred for antibody treatment? I've had antibody treatment.

Your kids are being overly dramatic and rude, and have got this from you because you still think isolating is worthwhile and so they have been brainwashed into thinking covid is a major thing when it’s now an everyday illness.

There’s no need to hide away in your bedroom. There’s no need to isolate. You need to tell your kids this and discipline them for their poor behaviour.

Your children are being outrageous

no way would my teenage children be shouting at their parents like that. Nope.

there’s nothing your husband is doing wrong?!? He’s negative. He’s at work. He’s trying to help? You’re following it to the letter so why on earth are they behaving like that? They seem so concerned about it when by now it is everywhere….

Why are the teenagers overreacting so much? Where have they got this fear from?

Exactly this.

unless they are isolating themselves ahead of the event / holiday, they have as much chance of picking up Covid when they are out and about.

Teenagers being rude and OTT

I can’t get over your teenagers shouting at their father and calling him selfish. Is that how you all usually communicate as a family?

DP has now gone upstairs and I have come downstairs into sitting room with door closed. Apparently they trust me to not infect them, even though I am positive and he is negative.

DP has now gone upstairs and I have come downstairs into sitting room with door closed. Apparently they trust me to not infect them, even though I am positive and he is negative.

So the issue they have is with your partner and nothing to do with being worried about covid then?
Is he their father?
Have they always had such a strained relationship? Screaming, shouting and refusing to ‘allow’ him down stairs and then being totally fine with you is really not pleasant behaviour.

Are the teens immuno-compromised? Do they yell at people like this who have colds or the flu or sickness bugs? What has caused their paranoia?

Yes he is their dad. They have said they hate him.

People are still isolating. I don’t know anyone who is! If I’m theory you can carry on as normal with covid why are people locking themselves away and isolating in a family where nobody is vulnerable?

Your children are rude and disrespectful.

Sorry they sound like rude, entitled little shits.