To feel absolute shame for those who are oblivious to their rudeness

[Whatthebarnacles]

At cinema.

Woman right next to me on her phone constantly. Even puts her foot up on her seat. I'd say she was in late 30s, early 40s - so not a kid.

I had to move about an hour into the film, aside from being annoying AF she was making me die inside. I was cringing for her!

She had kids and partner with her. Kids were 100% well behaved, but she was like some sort of unaware teenager too engrossed in instagram to notice that everyone was getting pissed off at her neon blue screen lighting the corner of the entire room.

I got up and moved to the other side of my husband to get away from it and she looked up and stared at me as if I was the rude one. Husband apparently just stared back whilst I was taking my seat and she gave up and went back to the phone.

Honestly I'm mortified. For her! Imagine being so completely unaware of your own rude behaviour 🙈 If you didn't want to see the movie, why go?

And before anyone say IABU because "you didn't tell her straight" or whatever other MNetty thing i "should have done" ...

a) I'm not her mother and b) I just wanted to watch the damn film without getting blinded in the corner of my eye or have someone's shoe an arms length away from my face. Literally, if I'd have straightened my arm, I'd have touched it.

Yabu - people have the right to do what they want, wherever they may be.

Yanbu - there's a time and a place, and for those who are oblivious of their rudeness, yes I cringe.

Did you say anything to either of them, or complain to the management?

I'd have thought making a scene / getting up and complaining / confronting her etc was being more of a drama queen than simply getting up and moving, but there we are. Interesting to see people's views.

No need to do any of this things. You could have just politely asked her to turn down the light on her phone screen. If she refused, you could have complained to the manager and asked them to intervene. Seems the logical response to me.

Not the cinema but a piano recital on a cruise.
A lovely Japanese pianist playing some beautiful music to a packed room.
Seated near us were two middle aged Welsh guys yacking away full pelt.Lots of people glancing over but nobody saying anything.
In the end I told them to ' shut up you rude buggers '
I was mid menopause then... nothing got past me..

Oh I have no compunction. Twenty something next to me at a musical on her phone every 2 mins. Most distracting. I asked her to stop - she did. Some people just don’t know how to behave it’s weird.

Theatre owners need to get a handle on this. I used to go twice a month with my partner. We stopped going even before covid because of selfish behaviour like this. Not worth the aggro.

I'd have told her to switch it off. People are just rude, how has she managed to raise well behaved kids, the dad must be the only useful one.

Actually it’s adults behaving worse than kids /teens! Absolutely no excuse!