Is it U to ask the local Chinese Takeaway for "tick"

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Local Chinese we've used for years (take away once every 2-3 months)
They recognise us when we go in and have our details on file (when we phone up they know it's us on their system)
They only take cash and have no card payments either in shop or over phone.
Dh stopped in tonight from work to pick up our takeaway that I'd phoned in earlier. Once he got there and went to the cash point next door and realised he had forgot his bank card and only had his credit card so would need to come home first to get a card.
I told him to pop in and ask if he could take the food and we'd drop off the money tomorrow. Obviously if they said no there would be no problem but considering they "know" us I couldn't see the harm in asking.
Dh, who is quite socially awkward, goes in a strop saying that's ridiculous and no way would they agree, you wouldn't try that at Tesco etc?
I agree you wouldn't do it at Tesco/McDonald's but feel this is different and think they would rather give regular customers hot food rather than them coming in half an hour later to pick up cold food?
In the end he withdrew money from his credit card which I think was stupid rather than asking them first if we could pop in tomorrow
I know this is boring first world problems but would you have asked in this case?

My parents had a corner shop and they said they never gave 'tick' because if people didn't pay it back they never shopped their again and they lost a customer so I think your husband may have been turned down. I definitely wouldn't have wanted to ask.

I wouldn’t have asked but I also wouldn’t frequent somewhere that only takes cash .

Erm nope.

I would have asked, definitely. Not sure what everyone's problem is

I agree with him, I just couldnt ask 😅😅

My Dh does it fairly regularly when he gets his food for lunch at the small corner shop by his work. He often forgets money or has large notes (they don’t accept card)
He often pays it all at the end of the week and adds a bit extra, the lady has no issue at all.
We live abroad though and it’s not massively out of the ordinary in small businesses.

Because of extra bank charges. So you pay £20, the business receives £17.50 (made up as each card provider/system gas different charges)
Same with some Paypal payments I would think.

In the current climate, all businesses should insist on payment before or on delivery of service/product.

It would never cross my mind! I would be upset if my partner put pressure on me to do this. I think you owe him an apology.

God, I think it's fine when it's a business you use often and who 'know' you. I've done this a couple of times with my local bakery when their card payment system was down - it was their suggestion to just bring the cash later. No harm in asking although I'd probably let them take the lead on it.

I personally wouldn’t but I would offer to do a bank transfer, I think it depends how well you know them though, if they recognise you and you chat to them I do think there’s no harm in asking but every 2-3 months isn’t very regular. The only place I would ask this is the salon I get my brows done at but I’ve been going to the same person every month for 4 years.

Same thing happened to me in my local coffee shop. They gave me £20 so I could carry on my day. I returned it and the cash for my cappuccino the following morning.

He could have made a bank transfer, providing he knows the security code on his card if he's never paid them by bank transfer before.

I'd have asked the takeaway if I could pay them tomorrow - they may even offered to let him to do that. I've been given credit in Morrisons before now when I filled up at the petrol station with no means of paying! They had my reg of course, but I was trusted to go back and pay.

This kind of thread is always an interesting insight into where different people draw that 'cheeky fuckery' line and the ways they justify their behaviour.
Absolutely not vs what's the harm in asking.
What is a regular? Once a week, once a month, 4 times a year? Is that even relevant?
As for the drama accusations, I think people who tend towards what many would see as cf behaviour aren't capable of seeing it from the other side.
So, yeah, people genuinely find brass neck/cf behaviour that shocking and as social norms go, at least in the UK OP you're probably in the minority.

I’d have asked. No big deal.

I'm with OP, no problem to ask, given the scenario (hot food ready etc).

The context is what matters.

I equally would have been ok, if they said they couldn't.

I also don't get the horror here, the 'cringing for you OP'. At least some of us agree with OP! So you just have a different opinion, no cringing necessary.

My chippy did that once, I thought I had two £10 notes and only had one, I told them I would need to dash down to the cash machine, was told Don't be daft, drop it in when you're passing.

No way. I'm with your husband

I totally agree with your DH. Wouldn't even cross my mind.

I'm afraid you've journeyed into CF country here OP

I was going to the hairdresser on the way home from somewhere else, and realised as I arrived that I hadn't got my purse. I'm a regular, so I asked when I arrived whether they would prefer me to go and get my purse first (wouldn't have been more than about six minutes), and they said it was fine to have the cut first and nip back with the money later.

I think your husband could reasonably have put his head round the door to say "I'm supposed to be collecting our takeaway but I'm going to have to nip home for the cash - keep it warm for us, we haven't forgotten." Then the ball would be in their court to offer tick if they wanted.

For Example Sum up (card reader) charges are 1.69% per transaction.
If They’re cash only they are committing fraud in my experience, in this day and age.

I run a business and see a lot of this!
Cash only? Fraud fraud fraud.

Go back and read the OP she says no card payments, just cash.

I'm with your husband, especially as it's not like he had no money and was really stuck. He had a way to get money (credit card) but he/you just didn't want to use it. It's like asking for a discount because you don't want to break a £50 note.

Transfer the money from your band card account to the credit card today and you won't even pay interest.

Having said that, if a business was cash only I wouldn't go there, way too much hassle.

And everyone saying she's a regular customer - I wouldn't say every 2-3 months is regular at all! They won't know them or recognise them. If she ordered 2-3 times a Week, that's a regular.

I wouldn't have the guts to have asked myself but I don't think there's any harm in asking. Or better yet,'I left my bank card at home, will go and get it and be back in 30 mins for food' in the hope they say just bring it tomorrow.

A lovely taxi driver did that for me once, was pretty smashed. Taxi cost 20 quid, didn't have my phone, bank card, money etc. all lost. He was kind to me and told me he'd come and get it during the week (he knew my address as he'd dropped me off there). And about 3 days better he chapped at my door and I gave him the £20 and a huge thank you. Most people will help you if they can.