Is it U to ask the local Chinese Takeaway for "tick"

[cheekyornot]

Local Chinese we've used for years (take away once every 2-3 months)
They recognise us when we go in and have our details on file (when we phone up they know it's us on their system)
They only take cash and have no card payments either in shop or over phone.
Dh stopped in tonight from work to pick up our takeaway that I'd phoned in earlier. Once he got there and went to the cash point next door and realised he had forgot his bank card and only had his credit card so would need to come home first to get a card.
I told him to pop in and ask if he could take the food and we'd drop off the money tomorrow. Obviously if they said no there would be no problem but considering they "know" us I couldn't see the harm in asking.
Dh, who is quite socially awkward, goes in a strop saying that's ridiculous and no way would they agree, you wouldn't try that at Tesco etc?
I agree you wouldn't do it at Tesco/McDonald's but feel this is different and think they would rather give regular customers hot food rather than them coming in half an hour later to pick up cold food?
In the end he withdrew money from his credit card which I think was stupid rather than asking them first if we could pop in tomorrow
I know this is boring first world problems but would you have asked in this case?

How many people a night should the takeaway to allow to do this? 1… 5… 10?

How would they keep a track of who owes them? What comeback would they have if you just didn’t take the money in the next day? How much time would they potentially spend chasing up non-payers?

3-4 times a year and you think you’re one of their best customers and they should give you food on tick. It’s cheeky fucker territory that.

I have done this with my nail place a few times - they only take cash and if I am passing and they look quiet I pop in and then go get money after (involves a 5 min drive) - they always say don't worry come back tomorrow but I think that's too much!

No I absolutely wouldn't do this. In the present economic situation I have been told of people who have got a taxi and then run away when it came to pay. We have ALL had it rough in Covid.

That is really not fair on the business. Distressing for them. You don't have the means to pay, you don't get a takeaway. End of.

I think it’s fine to ask… I worked at in a takeaway as a teenager and we definitely would have done this. Also they may have been able to take a payment over the phone or had another suggestion, it won’t have been the first time it’s happened

A takeaway every 2-3 months is not a regular customer either. We have one every weekend and I would never be so cheeky to ask.

I mean, I wouldn't plan to do this. But in the ops circumstances, yes I would.

People who are horrified at this...are you normally quite so dramatic? It's really not a huge deal.

My local fish and chip shop is the same - cash only. I'm pretty sure if I asked they would be fine with it and I would make sure I dropped the money in ASAP the following day. Mind you, I don't live in the UK and it's a different world here to the MN world!

Ha yeah no way would I ask that.

No it puts them in a really awkward position.

Maybe if you got takeaway every week but you're actually not a regular customer. They know its you who rings as a telephone system recognises your number ......

How would local businesses stand if the majority of their clientele said
" Oh don't worry about us, we're regulars, we'll pay when we're next around ?"

People who are horrified at this...are you normally quite so dramatic? It's really not a huge deal.

MN is drama central

If it’s your local Chinese why didn’t he just pop home and get his bank card.

I wouldn’t have asked.

I grew up in a small village and the local shop would do this for everyone and they’d be sent a bill at the end of the month.

I don’t think any business do this anymore and I’ve never heard of takeaways doing it.

No i wouldn't.. you aren't regulars every 2-3 months

If he was a regular customer who'd always paid before it would be worth taking the small risk he wouldn't pay up. Why wouldn't he? If he didn't he could never come back.

The food was already cooked so it was going to go in the bin anyway. I'm assuming OP doesn't go to a takeaway where they recycle old food.

I'm with you @cheekyornot clearly I'm also a CF! I've definetly done things like this abd my DP is even cheekier as he asks things that make me cringe but generally gets away with it.

I would have asked. I forgot my money in the butchers once…he gave me all my order and offered me cash to get shopping elsewhere.
There’s no harm in asking.

People who are horrified at this...are you normally quite so dramatic? It's really not a huge deal.

fascinating to learn that a simple standard awareness of what constitutes blatant cheeky fuckery makes me “horrified” and “dramatic”

I’m cringing for you OP. Your DH is right, you shouldn’t ask or expect this.

God almighty, you really thought this was ok?!

Btw, if you order every 2-3 months, you're not regulars. They'll have the details of everyone who orders from them in their system, not just yours...

Yes, honestly 🤣. The hype is quite amusing.

No point "cringing" for me honestly it's a bit of a non story seeing as how he never asked so anyone clutching their pearls and fanning themselves over my faux pas is being a bit dramatic 😂

I'm still surprised at how many people see this as a big NO, the food was already cooked.

The food was already cooked so it was going to go in the bin anyway.

Well, it wasn’t though, because he had his credit card handy, so he paid.

OP thinking the takeaway has her details filed under “VIP” because they go there now and again 😂😂

Good heavens, how disrespectful. They're not a bloody soup kitchen. I agree entirely with your DH.

They're cringing for you because you thought this was a perfectly fine thing to do. That your husband has a little more social awareness and refused to do it is immaterial.