To wish I was rich?

[antelopevalley]

Not mega-rich. But to own an ordinary house and have half a million in the bank rich.
I have no family beyond DP and the kids. It would be so lovely to have a really good safety net, and to choose not to work when life is tough.

Yanbu... but even with those things, there is no guarantee you would be happy and content.

That’s a reasonable aspiration, and also potentially an achievable one. What do you and your husband do?

I wish this every day of my life 🥹

No it is not.

@Herecomesthesunshine it would make life so much easier, es[ecially during the hard times.

I used to be rich, now I am not but I am about a million times happier than I was. Simple life is happy life.

Don't we all 🤣 but wouldn't say no to mega rich to be honest

I don't work.. am on UC. I can't see life getting better. It sucks. Half a million could mean I could live worry free for a while, and pay for therapy for my issues.

Why not? What is stopping you working your way into a career that pays enough to achieve that, or building up a business which does?

Other people have done it, starting with nothing, why do you believe that you don’t have a route available to do the same?

I don't think there's a huge pool of people who can chose not to work when life gets tough. We got decent incomes, if I or he couldn't work we'd be fucked.

Yanbu. Have the 'I'm worth about £10million but was most happiest when I didn't have a pot to piss in' brigade turned up yet?
The game is however rigged.

If it were possible for everyone, then why doesn't everyone do it? I think, unfortunately, for many people it is not possible, for a myriad of reasons.

YANBU being rich or mega rich makes life so much easier - no worries or stress relating to money is a dream for a lot of people - of course there will still be worries and stress of a different nature but I'd rather be rich with other worries than poor with other worries - I've been both

I would settle for enough to scrape me out of the debts I accrued due to going through family court.

I am very fortunate to be in that position now due to inheritance after parents died, but up until then we had to watch our spending and were worrying about our mortgage shortfall. We are in our 60’s and I do regret not being able to do a lot of things ie moving to bigger house when children were young (still in same small 3 bed house with 4 adults) and not having a third child. Also DH working over holidays, weekends etc, having to watch what we spent.

Although having a money as a cushion is nice, I’d give it all back to still have our parents with us.

Be careful what you wish, be careful what you say. Careful what you wish you might regret it, careful what you say, you just might get it.
Then it all crashes down.

I am.around that. A lot of sacrifices, you can't live in the UK unless mega rich for a start so sacrifice seeing family. There are few worse things than feeling helpless because of a lack of money and I don't underestimate the benefit of not really thinking about what I spend BUT that said, it doesn't buy happiness and there are plenty of other demons to fight. No doubt it helps though.

People who say "money can't buy happiness" have never been poor.

Money buys security and that's a massive contributor to contentment.

Agreed!

YANBU. Everyone would rather be rich/well off financially, and anyone who says different is lying.

Money doesn't necessarily bring happiness, but the lack of it brings misery.

@HesterShaw1

People who say "money can't buy happiness" have never been poor. Money buys security and that's a massive contributor to contentment.

This is my dream always said I don’t need a massive lottery win just 250-500k 🤣

I grew up very poor (single parent family, only child, council flat, no maintenance from df) and am now well off via marriage.
Money does not buy happiness, but it can make some of the hard times more bearable.
I am fortunate enough to choose not to work and am supported by DH (and am now a SAHM) but we also have a pre nup in place "just in case"

I also know that if we lost every penny tomorrow, I would cope with being poor better than DH would

Most people never even try. It’s not possible for everyone, but there are millions of people that could find a way there with the right planning, and effort.

My husband and I both come from poor, working class families, both chose to aim high, and each, individually, made it to board-level in investment banking.

My staff are normal people, from normal backgrounds, who’ve done the same; looked at what routes were available to become wealthy, and found a way to make it happen.

I don't think money buys happiness, but it buys opportunities.
You are far from alone in this, OP. Owning a home is a far-off fantasy for many.