My partner, a grandad, thinks I should accept that occasionally, as in every few weeks or months, he should come in rolling drunk, fall into stuff and break things in the home. He's not violent but as in falling and stumbling drunk, the wall plaster has copped it for example. I don't drink so am accused of being unreasonable and stuffy by him. He says most men do it and I should get used to it and I have the problem as a non drinker. I haven't drank a drop for many years as my off button stopped working, so I can't touch it.
He constantly asks me to go to the pub with him, but it's not for me, the people whose company he keeps are serious heavy hardened drinkers who talk garbage all night. I do go to all family functions and am the first one up dancing and go to events, pub quizzes that kind of thing.
Currently this is in his own place, he can breaks what he likes. He goes out a couple of times a week, other times again occasionally he can be verbally insulting to me. I don't know if he's just going to be silly drunk or staggering. There are other issues. We were talking about moving in together in my home, I've said I won't let that happen while he thinks this is reasonable behaviour. So am I being unreasonable to not let him move in with me?