To not want to buy this tightwad a drink?

[Homewardbound2022]

I play a group sport regularly and it is customary to buy drinks for one's playing partners afterwards. For the last three years since I've known her, one woman has never put her hand in her pocket. She will quite happily accept drinks but doesn't buy her round. My feeling is that if she can afford this activity, she can stretch to a few extra euros for drinks, if not she should just go home straight after! I've already been caught out twice by her but that was in the innocent early days and now I know her MO.
Anyway, on Monday I have the misfortune of playing with her (and two men) and am already wondering how I can avoid buying this seasoned tightwad a drink or to shame her into pulling out her purse.
Any suggestions?

Sometimes you'll confront people like this and they'll argue the toss.

We'll be there in spirit with you OP! Looking forward to the update tomorrow 🥂

Looking forward to your update

As others have said, be blunt 'your turn tightwad, I've bought the last two, mines a large G&T
Done!

Absolutely this.

Yanbu. Good luck tomorrow.

My DF once ordered a guy a pint of tap water. He had been buying my uncle and his mate beers all afternoon, he said he had no problem buying his brother beers as it works in roundabouts in family but was furious my uncles friend never put his hand in his pocket so he went to the bar and came back with a pint of tap water for the hanger on 😆

Wow I am learning a lot. In our culture you are taught that you have to pay for everyone or else. Well, that’s how my father in law saw things. You can split a bill with close friends but the idea of not paying as much as you can would cause enormous anguish.
the most mortifying moment of our life was when my SIL who married an EU National and lived in the Uk and as we walked up to the table she told him ‘this time, you are paying the bill. No more getting out of it’. After lunch we got the bill and he made no move and we reached for it with a ‘no, no it’s fine, honestly’. And she glared at him for a good long time while we tried to melt under the table.
very strange. He never had any issue with other people paying for him but would also - when they were both on a diet stare at your food till you faltered and then say that it would be shocking if that food was wasted.
then we would go to mcD

I need to know the outcome of this !!!

What country are you in?

Oh gawd, I'm feeling anxious just thinking about calling someone out for this.

God speed 🙏

I had an acquaintance who never bought.

Friend and I raised it with him. He had never twigged round buying etiquette (he is on the spectrum). Also had to teach him about hostess gifts when coming to your house.

He is now a model member of social society.

When I finally met his mother she thanked me (not entirely sure why she hadn't raised it with him) as now she gets flowers when she has him round for dinner!

Jofergo my DH said the same about a particular team at his work, he thinks they were all on the spectrum, they are all maths genius but don’t seem to be able to get their heads around buying rounds.

I'm interested in your post but I can't understand what you mean. You have to pay for everyone or else - how does everyone pay for everyone?

Surely only one person can pay for everyone and that means everyone else isn't paying?

@Maireas - why is the country the OP is in relevant? It really isn't relevant to how this particular resident in whatever country is behaving. This person is not paying for a drink for anyone yet expects to be bought a drink. Every time they are out at this sporting event. Every time.
Doesn't make the slightest bit of difference what country the OP is in, from what I can see.

Ok, ok, just a query because some cultures are different not worse. Different.
Really just an innocent, non judgemental query, nothing to get upset about 🙂🌸
It's all fine.

I think she was probably just asking that as a way of following the thread? You’re right it’s not relevant.
Im looking forward to seeing your update OP.

There is still a bit of a culture of women "letting" men buy the drinks and if she didn't want a 2nd it would be odd to buy a round.

It is usually these same women who find the idea of opening their purse on a date utterly abhorrent. I know a few of these type of people at my sports club and they are quite happy to admit that they 'don't do bars' insofar as walk up to the counter and order something, not ladylike or some such bollocks. Either way, I don't by them drinks because I just think they are parasites.

Get them one and say to her I know you don't like buying rounds so I'll leave you to get your own.

Thank you, Honeyroar. It was 😊

Oh @AliceMcK that is the absolute perfect answer. I’m sorry I missed it when I gave my initial response.

UPDATE

Today didn't happen.
Ten minutes before start of play, rain of biblical proportions began to fall and our game was abandoned.
To be honest, I spent this morning (and yesterday evening) thinking how I didn't want to spend any time in this woman's company, so in a way it's been a blessing. But I'm ready for her the next time, that's if I have the misfortune of being drawn to play with her.

I will be sure to report back!

Thank you again for all the excellent suggestions!

Sounds like a plan. Life is too short to spend time with arseholes.

Just look them straight in the face and say “mine’s a [insert drink of choice] please” then wait….