The show 'Escorts' on Netflix is eye opening

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£500 for an hour
£500 for one of the escorts to go to a pub lunch with a client, no intercourse involved.
2 young women in their 20s, who can make 6 grand a week.
I would never do it, but when you work full time hours and they make in 1 week what I make in 3 months. Or what some people would make in 6.
Still, they claim to love it on the show but who knows what it's really like. They may get taken advantage of a lot.

Has anybody watched the show? Or know anybody that's done this?

It's not legal to pay for sex here. Oftentimes an agency is billed as "company" but in reality you do "a lot more than that" but you don't publicise that.

Possibly this is a rare occurrence where you can actually get paid for sparkling conversation or to accompany a dateless man to a nice event, or perhaps the lady on television wished to legitimise her work to the public or her family.

The reality of prostitution, behind a nicely edited Netflix show, is pretty grim.

Some men like to show off. E.g. when their 'trophy wife' gets beyond a certain age, they'll happily redirect money away from their family towards an escort who'll be seen with them so that they can give their ego a boost. That's why they waste money on escorts. They'll risk their entire family's well-being just because their pathetic egos are so fragile.

I had a friend at University that did this, and whenever she met a new ‘client’ she’d ask her friends to hang out in a bar next to whichever hotel she was at and gave regular phone updates with instructions to go check on her and phone the police if she didn’t respond by such a time. Nothing bad ever happened though.

She charged £150ph and the men would pay for fancy hotel rooms. She had several regular clients (all married with young kids) who would just take her out for meals or spa days a lot of the time, and one man in particular who would offer her a grand
to spend the whole weekend with him whilst he paid for all their activities like theme park tickets and meals out too. She was also taken on holiday a couple of times a year by different men.

I’ll admit that I was really jealous and honestly thought about trying it at times, but I was in a long term relationship and I couldn’t get over the ick of older men wanting to take advantage of young girls with issues🤮

My friend was adamant that she enjoyed it because it helped her escape for a few hours (she was very troubled emotionally) and it made her feel powerful and valued, but she ended up getting hooked on drugs and spiralled out of control, dropped out of University by the end of the second year and pretty much just self destructed until she got out of it several years later (at least she says so).

Women while they are doing this rarely tell the truth of what is happening.

Think of when women are in a terrible and abusive marriage. You only hear the truth after she has left.
The humiliation of being honest about what is happening is too great.

This.

I considered watching this but decided against because I knew it would be that happy hooker propaganda shite
It really wasn't. Yes it showed the girls making a lot of money but they were honest about the fact it all went on their lifestyle- rented flat in Mayfair, nights out etc. It was clear they would have nothing to show for it at the end of it all. The rest of it was grim. I just felt sad and sick for them. I dont think anyone watching it would think it was something they'd like to do

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this was a really interesting if horrifying read.

Indeed. Plus that means anything they want, no matter how dangerous or degrading.

Why aren't you still doing it, then?

I used to live next door to two nurses who worked at an expensive private hospital in London. They had some dreadful stories of "escorts" being brought in after working at parties for the mega rich. The description of some of those injuries still haunts me.
They were well paid, looked glamorous, it was in palatial surroundings - but dear god, that was some traumatic "sex work".

The escorts, not the nurses, I hasten to add!.

The dark-haired woman seemed obviously keen to get out, I thought. The other was a closed book.

I certainly didn’t think it glamourised it.

The very ludicrousness of the sums mentioned just shows that very few women with a choice are going to do this. Imagine how competition would drive those prices down. Fact is that competition isn’t there because the lifestyle looks extremely depressing, no matter how much they portrayed it as two mates giggling over it together. It’s certainly not easy money.

@Maireas I got married when I was 24. I would do it again in a heartbeat. I have absolutely no problem being paid for sex.

Agency charged 130 per hour or 65 for half an hour.

We never went out, we just had sex.

You'd get a call from the agency, turn up ask them what they wanted take the money, have sex and leave.

Not trying to make it sound glamorous!

@thelastshadowpuppet - so your experience was positive?
Why did you get into it? If it's so good I'm not sure why you still don't do it, married or not? Your husband must know.

They do and they pay more than that. Let's just say, there is a whole world you and most others are not familiar with.

@thelastshadowpuppet there is absolutely nothing glamorous about getting paid to open your legs for some total stranger 🤮

There's something quite disingenuous with the naysayers lumping together addicts, sex abuse victims, women who're forced by pimps together with women who 'are desperate to feed their kids'.

While there is a serious problem with the first group, the latter just describes the reality we all face. All of us go to work because we need the money. That's just life. The poor single mother could almost certainly find a min wage job that would mean long hours for low pay. Some choose instead to do fewer hours for high pay, with the payoff being the kind of work is degrading/traumatic.

But it's a choice. A choice we all make when we decide which job to take and what work to do.

@SlickShady

Childhood neglect and abuse are often a big factor in a relatively few number of women taking the prostitution route.

Believing you are worthless is a powerfully debilitating force in going the wrong way.

There's something quite disingenuous with the naysayers lumping together addicts, sex abuse victims, women who're forced by pimps together with women who 'are desperate to feed their kids'.

How is it disingenuous?

I can’t think of a single other means of earning a living that has such a high (disproportionate) number of those groups of people. That is, addicts, sex abuse victims, women forced by pimps.

Can you?

This

I do not believe they get many bookings to just eat a pub lunch. I’m sure they get weird bookings to read nursery rhymes and feed hot milk to executives in their hotel rooms and other weird non-sex shit, but just to have lunch in public? Nah. They’ve set their up for the programme,

Well said. It’s not something truly psychologically healthy people entertain.

Absolutely. No man is going to pay that for company in a restaurant.

They're both obviously alcoholics

Who is in a position to make this kind of choice though? How many people think fully about the toll commodifying their own body could take on their mental and physical health when they become sex workers?

And I don’t really think it is a freely made choice anyway when women are driven to it by economic desperation. The categories you list often overlap- I doubt there are many desperate-to-feed-their-kids women who become sex workers and don’t have some kind of traumatic background. It’s such a dangerous job to do when you have children in your care.