If shakira got cheated on what hope is there??

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I mean what in Gods name was her husband thinking of?? I guess all of us that have been in the same boat can completely be in solidarity. However I always figured being her would be at least a bit of protection against your husband cheating with a 20 year old

nothng to do with looks

brad pitt cheated on jennifer aniston-doesnt mean a thing what they look like

There's a grim quote from a Hollywood divorce lawyer that's always stuck in my head - "Show me a beautiful woman and I'll show you a man who's tired of fucking her."

Never heard of her - but she could be as beautiful as can be, but a complete pain to live with!
maybe she wasn't putting out any more

I absolutely despair. How can we put MORE blame on the women, for the 'men' cheating?

I worked somewhere with a man who cheated on his wife (also worked there) with another woman (also worked there). The OW left. The 'gossip' was that the wife was probably 'not nice' to live with! (She was lovely). FFS. The 'man' got off Scot-free and was even promoted. The wife left, poor woman.

I'm not defending him but I assume that being a famous footballer means more women are likely to put themselves in his way.

No, she's not said that at all.
Bizarre (specious) reasoning. *

I'm not defending him but I assume that being a famous footballer means more women are likely to put themselves in his way.

JFC this thread is depressing. Being beautiful should be some protection against being cheated on and a man is more likely to cheat if women "put themselves in his way".

At what point are women going to hold men accountable for their own behaviour. We can see with our own eyes that woman are cheated on regardless of whether they are beautiful or not.

Are we really saying men are utterly helpless to resist responding to the attention of a women by having an affair? Are they just being kind so they don't hurt her feelings by rejecting her.

Remember that men occupy most of the positions of power and influence in society; how the fuck do we trust them with real responsibility if we simultaneously consider them to be poor hapless saps who are at the mercy of their own libidos and martyrs to the demands of their cocks.

"maybe she wasn't putting out any more"

Ahh well, of course that entirely justifies cheating and infidelity every single time doesn't it.....
if the person who typed the above is a woman (and if the are a man too) you should be extra ashamed of yourself.

This exactly.

100% this.

I get what you are saying and I know you didn't mean it to cause any offence or mean that less attractive people should get cheated on.
True it's nothing to do with looks.
Cheryl Cole was cheated on by Ashley and she's very beautiful.
Candice Swanepoel the Victoria's Secret model was also cheated on by a partner of 10+ years.

It's definitely all about the person cheating, nobody deserves to be cheated on, it's the cheater's issue. Even if they're unhappy, nobody forces them to cheat

Blame the man, it does not matter how attractive in anyone's eyes the man is. Or if he has 'punched above his weight'.

I have always noticed that the better looking the woman is the more entitled the man becomes.

Cheating has nothing to do with looks. You can look amazing and the woman he cheats with can be a plain jane. It's just how men (many of them) are made

Exactly. David Beckham, Ryan Giggs, John Terry, Wayne Rooney etc 😩even Sven the manager was having it off with Ulrika behind Nancy's back!

@PetersRabbitt is it established that Brad cheated on Angelina? I do think there's a bit of karma in those circumstances.

It's nothing to do with looks. And I don't know who he is but I'm assuming he's probably also attractive. So it's all relative.

I don't really think it works that way in the end. While being a horrible spouse might make your partner more likely to cheat, being amazing will make little difference if your spouse is a cheater. Or weak.

It's more about what kind of person the spouse is.

I know a guy who is really unfortunate looking. Like genuinely ugly. I don't say that about many people but he is unpleasant to look at and has no redeeming features. His wife is stunning. You'd think he'd be delighted to have such a beautiful, lovely wife....no. He cheats on her constantly with sex workers, people from Fetlife, all sorts. Apparently she 'doesn't pay him enough attention' and their sex life has dried up. They they have a three-year-old and a baby.

Realistically, having lots of opportunities will make a difference. Many people have a bad day, make a bad decision, get drunk. If that happened to intersect with the opportunity to do something stupid, a lot more people might end up having affairs.

Lots of things are like that.

Nothing to do with Shakira. He was/is a footballer, I'd say that's much more relevant.

Realistically, having lots of opportunities will make a difference. Many people have a bad day, make a bad decision, get drunk. If that happened to intersect with the opportunity to do something stupid, a lot more people might end up having affairs.

Agreed and understood but it is still the cheater who makes the decision, the responsibility does not lie with the person presenting the opportunity.

Look at how Ric Ocasek treated Paulina Porizkova. When he died she discovered he had changed his will so that she got nothing. They had been together since she was a teenager.

This is everything to do with the cheat; why blame the spouse?

Wow. Whatva dickhead!!

It's a massive misconception that cheating has much to do with the person being cheated on.

It's also often very little to do with the other women/affair partner etc.

It's completely down to the calibre of the cheater. They were selfish/immature/horny/starved for attention/unable to communicate/didn't have the courage/decent etc to break up with someone.

Decent people manage to break up and end relationships all the time. It's not easy but they would rather not cheat etc.