If shakira got cheated on what hope is there??

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I mean what in Gods name was her husband thinking of?? I guess all of us that have been in the same boat can completely be in solidarity. However I always figured being her would be at least a bit of protection against your husband cheating with a 20 year old

Cheating says everything about the cheater and nothing about the person cheated on really. Jay-Z cheated on Beyonce and she's gorgeous and he looked like a thumb.

Think we've seen so many beautiful people being cheated on that it's not to do with the looks and talent of the partner, more to do with the behaviour of the cheater.

Plus you never really know what's going on in someone's private life or what their relationship is like.

IME some chauvinist men seem more likely to cheat if their wife/girlfriend is very successful, because they feel emasculated.

Cheating isn’t a search for an upgrade, it’s a search for novelty.

Don't go out with a professional footballer, would be my first tip.

People don’t cheat because their partners aren’t good looking enough… they cheat because they are selfish dickheads.

I’m sorry this happened to you. Never blame yourself.

Well, they're not married. If that makes any difference. Apparently he is insanely jealous and hates her being around fit, young backup dancers. And it's him who allegedly cheats. He's rumoured to be cheating in ways other than romantic ones too. Wtf are you up to Piqué?

I think it's a bit helpful for those who feel they 'failed to keep their man happy/weren't enough for him' to see apparently 'got it made' women are also victimised in this way.

Makes it clearer it's about a cheating arsehole, not an inadequate wife.

I did think it was about me when my husband dumped me after 20 years for someone half my age yep!

It wasn't.

Jennifer Lopez apparently got cheated on by multiple partners, including one who was her backup dancer.

Lots of men are insecure weaklings who can't handle their partner being a being star. Cheating is a way of putting them in their place, so to speak.

Being “annoying as fuck” is also not a reason for cheating.

A decent person would address the problem, or end the relationship.

Cheaters cheat because they’re cheaters.

Maybe she wasn't putting out anymore.

like a thumb😂

I get what you mean, OP. You're saying she's so hot, why would the bloke even look elsewhere?! But as others say it's about him, not her.

Also he's attractive himself, and wealthy, famous - he'll be surrounded by willing women and temptation way more than the average bloke. I don't condone the cheating for a second but I can see how in their circumstances it's more likely to occur.

I am fat middle aged and unattractive.

I have never been cheated on by my dh
Why? because he is a decent bloke, and it goes against his own integrity.
Fortunately despite my fat middle agedness, he still finds me attractive. Why? Well I guess that is what it means to love someone.
You love the person not the tits or bum, and then, becuase you love them, you find them attractive.

Gosh who knew, men who are cheaters cheat on pretty women as much as ugly ones!

Maybe she is difficult to live with
Maybe they are bored to death with each other
Maybe he can't keep his cock in his pants
Maybe they haven't had sex for years and one is happy with that and the other isnt
Having a pretty face makes many things in life easier but it doesn't protect from being hurt. Perhaps he fancied looking at a different pretty face.

This. Wasn't there a scandal recently with Andy Carroll? That poor woman still married him after dodgy night in Dubai.

I think that it CAN be about a woman's looks for a cheater, but not in the way you think.

Some of them, I believe, have a mentality where having got one very beautiful woman, they feel entitled to more. And if the thing they love is actually a woman's beauty, then living with the down to earth version of that woman is too much for their tiny minds to cope with.

Same goes for the kind of man who talks like their wife is just the best they can get, not their best friend and lover.

LaSaville
I agree that men often cheat because the opportunity arises and they are feeling insecure and thankful for attention from someone who will feed their ego. There may be an element of knowing/feeling they are punching above their weight with their wife/partner.

In most cases where I have known of a cheating husband, the wife is significantly better looking to the point of others wondering how he won her over in the first place.

It is true that cheating is not due to the other women being more attractive. I have read many posts that give this assumption, the wife is frumpy and has let herself go whereas the colleague at work is beautiful in face and body. Not always the case.

OP has totally bought in to the misogynist MCP fantasy .

That young women's physical beauty "earns" the right to success, happiness, special consideration by men. That "celebrity arm candy" is a top career ambition.

People (men) cheat mostly just because they can. Look at Jude Law with a young Sienna Miller, cheating on her with the nanny.

I'm sorry this happened to you OP but it was never you, it was him.

Do you seriously think that traditionally beautiful people are immune from being cheated on?

Johnsnowedunder
You are correct but when you are betrayed it takes the wind out of you to the point you can barely breathe. Most women instantly look to themselves for the 'why' when it is nothing to do with them. You feel you will not survive (I never thought I would laugh again and wanted to end my life) but you do and life never quite looks the same again. Your confidence returns thank goodness. I for one, will never invest in or have any expectations from a man again.

I think it is a common misconception (I certainly believed it when i was growing up) that if a woman is beautiful and I mean really beautiful then her beauty will be enough to stop her partner/husband from cheating on her. So untrue. There are literally countless examples of really stunning film stars/celebrities/sports people etc who are cheated on and/or treated like absolute shit by their partner.
It is so common that I sometimes wonder whether being beautiful is actually a handicap of sorts to finding a sincere and loyal relationship with someone.

Being stunningly beautiful means you attract people quickly and might not really think it through when it comes to making a longer term commitment to them.

"That young women's physical beauty "earns" the right to success, happiness, special consideration by men. That "celebrity arm candy" is a top career ambition"

The reason why women fall for this lie so often is because when it comes to physical beauty in the initial stages a lot of men are prepared to do almost anything to get with the beautiful woman, and not predominently becaues of who she is/how beautiful she is, but more because the man enjoys competing against other men for her.