AIBU (it would help if I was so that it could be resolved).
Did, 33, moved in with me 3 years ago after marriage ended. Her now 4 ds lives with us when not at his dad's.
Recently she got a new bf (she's had a couple short term relationships but they had their own homes). She wants him to spend time at home. IMO too much time. I like my privacy and struggle to manage the loss of this. I agreed two nights a week with an occasional third but this means he's here first thing in the morning for 3 whole days with her inviting him back the morning after he's gone to his mum's.
She tells me he's staying but there's no discussion, she will inform me when I'm tired or busy and I don't feel able to say no but I also don't say yes.
This weekend he was also here when my adult son had a stomach bug (from the little one) and I had dehydration after a trip all the way to London with an early start and delayed train home getting in at past 10pm (Iive in Devon).
Per se I don't have a problem with him although he's not someone I would seek out.
My DD and I's relationship has broken down to the point I think we need professional help.
I work from home and have said it's not ok for him to be at the house for those days as I am having confidential meetings but she says that's not fair.
TBH I just want my home back. I can tolerate him the 2 days but don't want any more. She's at his mum's 2 nights a week and I don't see why he can't pay for a hotel as currently noones paying towards my additional costs (and she doesn't do any cleaning).
She can't afford to move out.
AIBU.