Everyone looks so happy

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Eightieskidninetiesteen · 18/06/2022 22:59

And I’m happy for them.

So many people seem to have so much going on, lots of money, exciting outings etc.
I have a nice life and a Dd I adore, but I don’t feel like this.
Hard to explain, but looking at sm before never made me feel the way it is lately

Anyone else feel the same?

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pixie5121 · 19/06/2022 13:36

ShaneTwane · 19/06/2022 12:12

I hate the sm argument that crops up all the time.

SM is generally when you post some snice snapshots of your life. Key events you want to document such as nights out, births, new house, new relationship, anniversary, dinner at s restaurant, anything.

Some people can boast, others just want to share that particular snapshot of time. That's not indicative of their entire life. They will still have bereavements and illness and money worries and other things that everyone has to worry about.

That doesn't mean that they are pretending to hide their shitty lives on SM it just means they are showing a time when they are having a bit of joy. No one should be trying to drag them down by saying they are insecure and overcompensating because they are unhappy in their own life.

End of the day your life is your own. Only you can change it in the way you want. If it's something that can't be changed eg bereavement or disability then therapy and asking for help would be a better use of time than complaining that people look happy on SM.

Yes, I think it's more this.

I'm not a big SM person at all but I like to post Instagram photos when I travel. Most of the time it's because I want to share the joy with people, as I usually travel alone and have nobody to turn to and say "wow, look at this amazing view". It also prompts messages from friends and acquaintances asking where I am, more than once I've ended up meeting up with someone who happened to be nearby.

I went to a family wedding recently and a cousin said she was so jealous of my life because it looks like a montage of gorgeous mountains, lakes, quaint European cities and delicious food. Yes, it is those things, but I don't post the bad things, of which there are plenty. I don't post that I've been going for scans because doctors think I might have a serious health issue. I don't post that I feel lonely because my relationship ended in 2020 and it feels impossible to meet someone new. I don't post that the decision to have kids has basically been taken away from me because of the pandemic and the timing of it. It's not that the good stuff isn't real, it's that it's only a small part of my life. Most of my life is drudgery and feeling listless, just like hers.

Oblomov22 · 19/06/2022 13:46

I completely disagree. Everybody knows that behind the scenes donkey work is done : batch cooking meals, homework, etc. when you do go out to say The Killers concert or with your dd to see Harry Styles or to Ascot race course, you're happy and enjoying yourself and you take a picture to show this.

If you don't have enough happiness in your life generally, no nice things ti look forward to, then that's a different issue

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