Wedding Evening Do Tonight

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Invited to one of DH friends weddings could not do day do as we were working, so just accepted the evening invite. the evening is pretty much bring family open invite, woke up today feeling crap told DH this morning did not think I would go, worked all day today got home and just crashed, he has gone which I have no problem with just had a nasty message saying shame you could not be bothered FFS feel like shit and tbf its the third time I have been to his weddings each one bigger and better than the last can I just tell him to a) fook off b) I am bored when will the next one be (usually around 5 years) c) Just dont invite me next time

Tell him you'll come to the next one. (Sorry, I've had some cider and that brings out my catty side.)

I agree that if you had wanted to go you would have had a shower, taken some paracetamol and gone.
But also agree it seems very odd for a groom to be taking time out of his wedding to be berating guests for not turning up.

Does make me wonder what your dh said to him / how he phrased it ? Did your dh imply you cba ? Because, 3rd wedding or not, if you have catered for X guests and only Y turn up, or you haven't invited Z group because there was no room then several who said they were coming then don't, I can see that would be frustrating.

Tell him you've saved your annual leave because you reckon wedding number 4 will be better. Prick.

If this is real then it's come from your bloke through the B&G. Take it up with him.

I think it’s pretty appalling you have RSVPd to a wedding invitation saying you’d come and then not gone unless you’re genuinely unwell and have text profuse apologies, which doesn’t sound like it’s the case. If you don’t approve of the groom’s situation then you can politely decline. It’s likely they’ve paid for your place or at least an estimated number, which probably means they have wasted money because you’ve been flakey. I think you need better manners to be honest.

I'd just text back that I'll definitely go to the next one, but if they want you in photos they can just edit you in from one of the others.

And next time, just say no.

Indeed.

Rise above OP.

'I am actually very sick. I'm sorry you've taken time out of your happy day to message me. I hope you have a happy marriage.'

I would also ignore it - what a tw*t though!

I’m not a fan of evening dos but you were invited to the whole thing and didn’t because of work. I expect they thought not taking time off to go in the first place was a bit shit, if there was adequate notice, so to bail on the evening do was a deliberate snub. And they’re probably right.

You’re feeling a bit under the weather not doubled over with d&v so you could have gone for a couple of hours and made an effort.

It’s irrelevant that this is his third wedding. If you dislike him so much why accept the invitation in the first place. None of this is his wife’s fault so don’t be a dick to her.

Surely no one notices that a workmates had come to an evening do on his own?

And surely husband just says "sorry xyz is sick, sends her best"

Which he clearly didn't.

So rude Groom and husband would be in a ton if trouble for what he must have said to the couple about you.

I'd literally be texting him back, "Don't worry; I'll catch the next one!".

did he aye?

I really feel crap we did tell them not sure if we could all attend as dd1 away and tbf do feel really ill dh has gone with lil ones x

So why did he tell them you couldn't be bothered?

It can't be a very fun wedding if this is what they're spending their time on!

I have felt crap all day, his weddings involve getting picked up by coach with set times for pick up and drop off feel like crap even dh did not want to go he is driving and after we declined the day do was made to feel bad

This is mumsnet of course I am in the wrong all I wanted was to be ill in piece on my own hopefully I wil feel better soon

Perhaps you’re not the only one, who didn’t pitch to wedding no 3. He expects everyone to traipse out to his weddings with pleasure and I imagine it’s hard to do that even if you’re feeling well. What are you going to respond? For the weather alone, I’d be tempted to reply ‘rain check’.

Would people take a day off work to attend a third wedding of a friend?

And I wouldn’t want a wedding guest attending if they feel crap

Perhaps you should put a full stop to the whole thing.

Its really odd that he would care so much about his friend's wife being there, and even odder for him to text you. I'd steer well clear of him in future. His behaviour towards you is not normal.

55% think you're in the right?

I think it’s rude to not attend unless you’re really ill. You were well enough to make it into work so it does come across as you just couldn’t be bothered.

Must be a cracking do if they have time to send text messages