To worry about leaving DS14 home alone with girlfriend?

[teenagerinlove]

DS only just turned 14 has a girlfriend and they are besotted with each other. Lots of hand holding, cuddling etc. They get on really well and are always laughing and chatting. It's very sweet. She is at our house a lot and they spend their time in his room. Rightly or wrongly I do not insist on the door being open. But I make sure I am here 99% of the time and I regularly knock and go in to say hi or ask them a question etc. They are often lying on DS bed but always fully clothed and don't look flustered or embarrassed when I go in.

If I go out it's only briefly to grab something from the shop.

This evening I could have gone to watch other DS play cricket with H which would have been nice as it's very social, there's a bar and lots of my friends are there with their DC. But I didn't go because I don't want to leave them here alone. That's sensible isn't it?

Also - you don’t need to stay home on their account - they can come with you or she can go home

You should have sent her home so that you could go out. Your other son would have probably liked you there and you would've had a good time, instead of babysitting two 14 year olds!

@teenagerinlove

I think it’s putting an unfair onus on you to always be around when they together in his room and popping in to ask them questions.

You should have been able to go out last night and socialise. I wouldn’t have stayed in for them if I wanted to go out!

I would be speaking to him about safe sex, std’s, that if there was an unplanned pregnancy you wouldn’t be looking after baby etc. That has to be more of a deterrent than relying on you to always be around and catch them in the act.

As previous posters have said, why didn’t you send her home so you could go out OP?!

@teenagerinlove

As previous posters have said, why didn’t you send her home so you could go out OP?!

Because I imagine that as soon as the OP’s car was out of sight her son would be phoning his girlfriend and telling her to come straight back.

@Perplexed0522

Op can’t be held on home arrest just in case son sneaks girlfriend in can she?! She deserves a social life too

The other child is thirteen years old, I find it shocking that you have allowed them to lie in bed together in the first place, and you never got her parents permission for that?

Oh I completely agree.

I’m just saying it’s quite naive to believe that saying to the girl that she needs to go home is going to make any difference to the overall scenario.

I would say very sensible.

I've just had to deal with my 14 year old daughter getting pregnant.

The other child is thirteen years old, I find it shocking that you have allowed them to lie in bed together in the first place, and you never got her parents permission for that?

^ it's unb isn't it

😂😂😂you're not serious ????