To think to hell with this life!! I’m done!!

[Remiwoof2]

I’m sorry if I sound unreasonable but I am just honestly wanting to run away to a hotel and call it on today!! Actually not even the whole day but my evening time.

Thursdays have been promised to me as an evening of relaxation and no commitments! So this is week 2 and this evening I’ve had 4 projectile vomits from the 2 year old and because he’d thrown up in his bed other half moved him to ours which has a new simba mattress and a gorgeous soft duvet which he has now thrown up on 2 under sheets so I’m sleeping on a blanket with no duvet now.

he went back to his own bed after throwing up on ours twice and he’s thrown up on that one again so the 2 year old is down to his last sheet. My other half cannot tell the puppy to be quietly properly and after a big moth got in the room I had to remove it.

this is all during the worst temperature ever! I hate summer! I hate this evening and I am so sick of my wet blanket fiancée and the stupid stupid false promises of being able to relax!! I feel like the only way I’m ever going to get chance to relax properly is if I run away or I die 🤷🏼‍♀️😡

Ugh, that sounds very stressful! And frustrating that it happened on your one night off. I think it was probably just one of those "all hands on deck" nights but you should get some of the weekend (at least an equivalent of the 4 hours of hobby/work time he's having!) to relax and potentially a different evening (Sunday night?) to make up for last night's disaster.

It's all very well being understanding of his hobby/work but currently it's not affecting your life positively at all and is in fact a huge hassle so you do both need to ensure you put things in place so that you don't become resentful and so you know he appreciates your support. That said, it sounds like last night was just one of those times when nothing goes to plan.

A. Take cat to the vets. Sounds like stress induced cystitis
B. Bin the fiancé. He sounds like a right tool
C. There's a reason animal rescues won't let families with children under 5 adopt. Your kid is far too young to be around a puppy. I hope you keep an on them and make sure the kid doesn't pester the puppy
D. Adopt don't shop 👌

@JenniferBarkley @Herejustforthisone

If they’ve been 4-6 times and can’t keep down fluids at the age of 2 it’s important to seek help.

Happened with our child at 1 1/2 and 2, they have him a tablet to stop the vomiting and put him on fluids for dehydration. His breathing was impacted and temp dropped massively.

For an older child I wouldn’t be so worried about dehydration, they aren’t as vulnerable.

Gosh that happens to mine with every tummy bug. So long as their breathing is ok and they can keep water down a while after the vomiting subsides I wouldn't even think of medical advice.

I would advise anyone to be prepared for this situation. Have plenty of spare bedsheets, make sure you have mattress protector underlay. buy some plastic vinyl coverings or towels to place under bedding and pillow sheets as it's going to get messy. Have buckets at the ready in every room so when they heave you are ready to catch most of it. The cleaning is a nightmare otherwise as the virus is still in the fabrics. Best get a good steam cleaner to kill it on upholstery and always wash everything at 60 degrees.

When they are babies they can become dehydrated quickly and that means their body doesn’t have the necessary salts for proper function.

www.nhsinform.scot/illnesses-and-conditions/stomach-liver-and-gastrointestinal-tract/vomiting-in-children-and-babies

I think I'd be more concerned about the puking child than my downtime tbh. Just talk to DP and have an alternative plan for over the weekend/next week. Not everything has to be high drama. Cats piss, puppies bark and kids get ill. These are all out of everyone's control.

By the by both occasions we attended at a&e we rang ahead with gp/out of hours who advised to go immediately…. Not suggesting to land at a&e with an infectious child unnecessarily…. Just what OP described sounds extreme. Hopefully the little one is ok.

I still think people are missing the point. OP didn't begrudge comforting her sick child or helping her DP with the logistics (we've all been there and we all know it's all hands on deck). She was having a moan and the sheer crappy timing of it all.

he funds his own equipment and things rather than using family money.
he will eventually [start sharing the money] when he makes more put it into the family funds

Yeah right. Don't hold your breath OP. I'd bet a winning lottery ticket that there will never be a time when the money goes to the family. There'll always be some reason why he has to keep it. In the meantime you take on all the donkey work while he has a lovely time doing whatever.

Sorry all not had a chance to respond I’ve been taking care of the little one at home. I ended up ringing NHS number for advice and in this heat as long as he keeps water down within 30mins of drinking it his body will absorbing it. He was last sick at around 7AM this morning. He’d gone through all spare bedding so I’m currently on with washing load number 5.

i don’t begrudge my other half’s hobby/business honestly he’s been doing it since he was about 10 and he’s always wanted to make it a business- content creator and for the poster who mentioned miniature figures yes that’s right. He does commissions and holds events and he is more than happy for it to go into the family pot but id rather none of his expenses come out of the family pot so that’s why he can keep all the money for himself.

He does help out for bedtimes, he starts as soon as he finishes because I’ve picked the kids up and I’m doing dinner. He will then put the older one into their pyjamas whilst I put the youngest my little boy down.

he’s honestly not a villain, he stopped recording his podcast last night to help. My job is making me unhappy too as it is very stressful so yes last night I was just looking forward to being left alone and having some quiet time and it turned out to be less straight forward than any other night.

he’s honestly not a villain, he stopped recording his podcast last night to help.

That was nice of him.

Also the puppy is a spaniel and we did a lot of research into a suitable breed and I grew up in a dog family and so have my children so they know how to be with dogs. The puppy is 8 months old and he has not left our 2 year olds side all day and neither have I. The dog has laid on my knee with his head on sons feet all day to comfort him

😆 #hero

It’s not anyone’s fault that your kid is ill? Surely you realise this?

BTW for future reference waterproof under sheets are a godsend.

Yeah, it is very hard! I remember still breastfeeding one baby when the older one got a vomiting bug. I was feeding dc2 and had to run with him to the loo to vomit as I'd got it too. Dh had it too. Fucking horrendous. I hate sickness bugs and the washing, oh my god.

Full sympathy. Hope your dc is better soon!

OP, what exactly is this business that's taking him away from you for so long every day and isn't bringing in any money?

Yeah - come on, OP, play the game. Give us some small leverage to work up an indignant hubbub about it all being your old man's fault. You're just not making the required MN effort.

Of course you’re entitled to moan.

it does sound like yesterday was an “all hands on deck” sort of time, but equally your DP doesn’t sound brilliant overall. Too much downtime/ hobby time going to him and not enough to you overall, so you feel resentful if your tiny bit of time goes.

But equally I don’t wish myself back to those very early years at all!

We do have waterproof mattress protectors which is why luckily our mattresses have not been ruined, I keep 3 spare single sets for the children each and as adults we have 2 king size sets so there is always a spare in theory. There is also at a push a double duvet for guests.

i did ring the helpline for advice last night and I rang the GP dead on 8 this morning as well. I’m not a monster mother.. I don’t cope well with illness regarding the children as I had traumatic birthes which the youngest one was the worst so when either is sick I find it a bit triggering because I instantly go to- “I’ll do everything then shall I and I’ll just cope with whatever comes all by myself whether it is mental or physical”

my son was born premature and I was in hospital for a few months with him so I don’t cope well with child sickness

Is the business being a social media influencer?

no, it involves Warhammer and painting commissions for people and making podcasts, videoing his games etc.

Now isn't the time. He needs to wait until your kids are a bit older.

He's actually playing video games and calling it work.