DP Night away?

[mumof2littlemonkeysx]

Little back ground for you, I have an 8 week old baby who is very unsettled he has silent reflux and CMPA he's generally just a very unhappy wee soul. he's also just had his tongue tie cut. Im struggling... a lot some days I think to myself how am I ever going to cope another day:( the only thing that's getting me through it is the fact my first born was exactly the same and he did eventually grow out of it. Anyways more to the point of the post my partner has told me he's thinking about going camping with his boss and work mates on Saturday leaving late morning coming back tea time Sunday am i wrong to think this is maybe alittle selfish giving he knows how much I'm struggling? Or am I being selfish ? Sometimes I do think I need to accept that he needs a life outside our relationship and being a dad... but I can't help but feel so angry at him ? My 2 year old also gets up in the middle of the night for 2 + hours I have no idea how I'm going to cope

Can we have this as a sticky, please?

I'm sorry, OP. It's not you. He is a useless waste of space. Thank goodness your kids have you. (For what it's worth, my second is five months, DH only just went away for his first night away, and I found it really hard. You are completely normal.)

Thank you for all your lovely helpful replies. He has said he knows he's being selfish, but. Has been asked to do something he will enjoy and he refuses to not go...well that's the end of our relationship I'd happily struggle on my own than he with someone who is happy to see me struggling and not think twice about causing me more upset. No more tears!

That's a big decision, good luck. Make sure he takes his turn at contact to give you a break.

He has said he knows he's being selfish, but. Has been asked to do something he will enjoy and he refuses to not go.

Well that's who he is. And he can live with that knowledge about himself. Poor bugger. You only have to deal with him being an arsehole some of the time, he has to live with himself all the time.

I wouldn't be surprised if a woman appears at some point. Selfish is as selfish does. Make sure his time with the children means you get a break or two.

Is he really going camping with his boss and workmates?

Whatever he’s a selfish shit but I think his companion will not be male.

Probably not 🤣🤣 convenient that it's with people who I don't know nor do I have on any social media platform! Wouldn't put it past him he's been smiling glued to his phone the past 4 weeks, now this...

Why doesn't he take the two year old with him?

You're both parents now, so you both get to parent. Yes, I'm sure the toddler will cramp his style a bit but if he says it'll be too difficult for him to have one child, he can't turn around and then say it's ok for you to have both.

Eight weeks after giving birth it's you that deserves a break, not your DP.

Wouldn't put it past him he's been smiling glued to his phone the past 4 weeks, now this...

Yup he's playing away.

I'm so sorry OP.

He can have weekend access to the children. That'll bugger up his fun. Wanker.

Your last post sheds a completely different light on this. Is there anyway you can check where he actually went to last night?