Should a 33 year old man know better?

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DP is insistent on not using condoms for the full duration of sex, but says he is keen to avoid pregnancy. I am not on any other form of birth control and have made it known abortion is not birth control.

YANBU - he secretly wants to get me pregnant
YABU - he is just foolish

Foolish

Third option- he dgaf.

Option number 3 he is an idiot

He is foolish, but so are you unless you want to get pregnant?

Both foolish.

How long have you been together? Option 3 is he disappears if/when you get pregnant.

He’s a fool

Have you outright said to him “you know we are not using protection yes. I am not on birth control yes. I am likely to get pregnant and I will not be having an abortion”

He wouldn't stick around if you got pregnant

What's your views on pregnancy and raising a child? What if you get pregnant and he fucks off, could you raise a child alone?

Cos if your view is absolutely no children then your only option is to either get some form of birth control that you are in control of, or stop having sex.

Was going to say he's an idiot but actually I think he dgaf is probably right

Yep he's an idiot

Why would he care about you getting pregnant if he isn't your husband? a lot of men do this and then just bail as they can. I'd stop seeing him BTW. it's icky that he can't wear a johnny

Urgh he sounds like an utter moron tbh
i certainly would t be risking having a child with someone so careless and uninterested in your feelings

The question is; do you want to get pregnant?

If so, carry on doing what you're doing. If not, you really need to stop having sex with him until he wears a condom for the duration.

If you don't want to risk getting pregnant, then he bags it before it comes anywhere near you. And if he doesn't like the "feel" of a condom, then tell him vasectomy is also effective.

He doesn’t like condoms so wants to shag without and put one on for the grand finale? An idiot would be my best guess. I’d be very careful unless you fancy being a single parent suspect any pregnancy would be deemed a contraceptive failure and not his responsibility.

Time and time again....

He's an idiot. And you'd be mad to go along with it unless you want to be a single mum.

Time and time again...

My dh will try this occasionally, even though we already have 3 dc (youngest 10!), we definitely don't want anymore and I got pregnant first go all 4 times (1 miscarriage), plus I am getting on a bit and a pregnancy would be higher risk now. Men can be really thick when it comes to sex.

In that case, option 3 - he doesn't give a flying fuck about you, and is a wanker

3rd option: his cock is king and anything else pales into insignificance

My bet? He doesn't think you'll actually get pregnant. And he thinks you won't actually keep the baby if you do.

If that were to happen, I'd bet he'd have a whole lot to say about it, including "Can't believe you'd trick me into having a baby, I told you I didn't want one", conveniently ignoring all the other bit and the fact he (in theory) knew the risks.

I'd be equally annoyed that he was an irresponsible idiot and that he was dismissing what you're saying as a bargaining tool or attempt to convince him, rather than the truth.

Wmraning what??

Sorry, have I read that right?! "I am not on any form of birth control".

You're the foolish one, I'm afraid, unless you are wanting to get pregnant, and have the means to support a child for the next 18 years + on your own.