I am the other woman

[ebellani]

I already I'm going to get flamed. That's fine.

I am in love with this man, it's all very pathetic. I just can't seem to let go. We don't meet up in person too often anymore but we text everyday, often flirty/sexual. We last slept together about 6 weeks ago.

He has been with his partner for a couple of years.

I have just found out she is 5 months pregnant. Shocked, very upset. I know the biggest victim in all of this is her.

I have never met her, I'm not sure she even knows I exist.

I honestly didn't feel guilty before, but now there's a baby I do. Is it true that the OW doesn't owe anything to the DP/DW of the man?

we’ve all been there, I can’t name one of my friends that hasn’t slept with a married man

Get better friends? Speak for yourself. We haven't "all been there".

Nope, not everyone has by a long shot. Lots of us have a moral compass.

You need to sort your life out and be single for a while.

You deserve to suffer through every pang of guilt right now because the hurt and confusion you're dealing with now is nothing compared to the pain of betrayal his partner will feel. You are not some innocent party in this mess, you continued the relationship with him after you found out about her.

If you have any self respect you would ditch the arsehole and work on being a better person. One that doesn't make the choice to have an affair.