” Husbands make sacrifices during their wife’s pregnancy that can take years to recover from.”

[AllAloneInThisHouse]

This is what I read somewhere else.
I’m sorry but it just me laugh.
Any guesses what he was on about?

Let’s see if this works.
He finally responded.

There's a difference between marriage / being part of a loving relationship and sacrifice.

A woman sacrifices her body, her career, her mental health, her time...She is, according to him, supposed to do all this while being supportive of the fact that he might not like her gaining weight, being tied, not wanting sex.

Wow. Entitlement much?

Fucking hell that reply. Zero understanding of what his wife has gone through, just the minimal impact on him.

She really is just a play thing to her, isn't she. God help her.

Hang on is this about surrogacy? the final sentence 'especially when she made the offer without consulting him'?

I was thinking the post was a load of self absorbed bullshit until I got to the end but actually i would not be happy with my partner deciding to be a surrogate as I wouldnt want her to risk her health / finances/ career for someone elses child, on top of the ethical concerns about surrogacy. I do think this changes things a bit (though he has kind of ruined his point by going on about sex like it's his right)

@DrinkFeckArseBrick

The very original thread was about surrogacy, yes.
The quote that I used in the title was from a random man, who commented about husbands making sacrifices when women are pregnant.
I asked him about that, cause I couldn’t think of any ’sacrifeces’ men make.
So the surrogacy wasn’t the point at that point.

Of course it was the point if that's what the thread was about.

What a spectacular drip feed intentionally left out just to rile up the crowd.

Fair play 😂😂😂😂 that is a grade A bait and switch played beautifully

And that is a redditor who still lives with his mum and has never seen a vagina let alone had a baby.

No, it wasn’t @Mayorquimby2 .
It was a opinion he wrote, all I asked about what were these sacrifices men apperently make during wife’s pregnancies.
I didn’t ask anything about surrogacy.
So no ’drip feed’ was made.

Just in case you don’t follow, conversation happened inside that original thread.

My dh attended all appointments, helped me put my shoes on, helped me put my compression stocking on, he did moxibustion on my feet, massaged my perineum, cooked cleaned and in my last pregnancy took cate of our older two a lot when I became very ill at the end of the pregnancy. He was there when I has postpartum eclampsia, had two emergency sections and when our son was born not breathing. He's my husband, my partner and he played his part being supportive.

In the context of what the man has written I don't think there is anything that is likely to impact the man for years. I do however understand his not wanting to go through all of that if his wife was wanting to be a surrogate. Hell I wouldn't go through pregnancy if I ddidn't get to keep the baby.

I hadn't shaved near the end. Afterwards when I was crying in pain with the stitches (no epidural and honestly worse than labour) the midwife called the head midwife to do it as I "wasn't tolerating it" and then told me that it was hard to do because I had hair!

I hadn't shaved near the end. Afterwards when I was crying in pain with the stitches (no epidural and honestly worse than labour) the midwife called the head midwife to do it as I "wasn't tolerating it" and then told me that it was hard to do because I had hair!

That's appalling. More like she found it hard because she was inexperienced.

I'm with you on the stitches though. After some inspection after having DS2 the MW said it was borderline whether I needed them or not. I couldn't say NO THANK YOU quick enough.

That's shocking, glad he's your ex.

I've just remembered that my MIL told me that she had to drive herself to hospital when she was in labour with DH as FIL had a bad cold and stayed in bed. She tells it like it's an amusing story rather than FIL being a complete dick!

When I had my first in the early 70s the hospital was madly busy to the point where they had nowhere to put me after delivery as all delivery suites needed and no beds on wards so I was parked in a linen cupboard with baby in crib beside me. I fell asleep and woke up back in a delivery room with my legs in stirrups and a doctor stitching me with no pain relief. I was hysterical, not a nice way to wake up. A midwife got me a gas and air machine which helped but I was terrified of having it happen again. I didn't need any pain relief in labour. When my GP saw me for my 6 week check up he said, "Did whoever stitched you have a personal grudge because they've made a right mess."

I had second baby at home, GP was aware how scared I was of stitches and swore I wouldn't be cut unless it got dangerous for the baby. When he had to do the cut he was nearly as upset as me and apologised so much. He left me to rest and came back later to do the stitches. He promised it wouldn't hurt and I swear he pumped me so full of local I was numb from waist down for hours but I didn't feel a thing.

I suffered badly with morning sickness when pregnant, but was keen not to take any unnecessary medication during the first trimester and my midwife thought it wasn't severe enough to warrant any anyway. MIL told me to reconsider because she was worried that my morning sickness was too hard on DH (who never once suggested anything of the sort - he was utterly brilliant and thought she was bonkers!)

I wholeheartedly agree that it being about surrogacy completely changes. The context completely changes with that. Watching your wife be sick, possibly struggling with walking then going through Labour (and the tiny risk she may die) only to not get a baby, would be tricky. I know the husband of a surrogate and he does struggle watching her suffering. Weirdly the thing he struggled with most is how rude and entitled the parents are when she is pregnant, like being presented with a list of do’s and don’ts.

Sacrifices = da fuck boyz who don't get to fuck.
Diddums.

Mine studied the football fixtures for around our due date and proceeded to tell me which days he'd prefer me to not go into labour 🤦🏻‍♀️😂