” Husbands make sacrifices during their wife’s pregnancy that can take years to recover from.”

[AllAloneInThisHouse]

This is what I read somewhere else.
I’m sorry but it just me laugh.
Any guesses what he was on about?

Oh, please tell me they don’t still do it @Reallyreallyborednow! It was utterly barbaric.

No, completely optional.

A bird pooped on my foot. My partner cleaned it off for me. I imagine the trauma will be long lasting.

No not at all. I had two vaginal births and never touched mine.

If you have a section, the medics may use a razor on some of the top portion. They actually prefer you don't do it yourself in advance because there's less infection risk if they do it, IIRC.

If he didn't respond it's because he wants the general public to guess the torments he had to go through, poor diddums, plus listing them all would be too triggering for him and all the other suffering souls.

If you have a section, the medics may use a razor on some of the top portion. They actually prefer you don't do it yourself in advance because there's less infection risk if they do it, IIRC

not for sections either. I had two and was not shaved for either. Again shaving and introducing sites for bacterial colonisation at a surgery site is not a good idea.

Ah yes. I remember a male colleague very kindly explaining to me that really fathers (and not mothers) have it toughest in the work place when they become parents because everyone knows they will be distracted around the time their baby is due and will need to take time off at short notice when their partner goes in to labour. When the baby is born they will also need to go in to work tired. Whereas mothers take maternity leave so they can plan their time off and have plenty of time to have a good rest before they are back at work.

Obviously, this set me straight. As a mother who had could barely walk for the second half of my pregnancy, had pregnancy related illness involving surgery for several months of my mat leave, had to return to the office after 6 months (due to maternity pay policy cutting pay to next to nothing after 6 weeks and me being the main wage earner) whilst still trying to breast feed and being told that I could not be considered for promotion in the year before or after maternity (despite constantly being asked for advice from the man promoted in my absence)- yes, I can see that pregnancy is much harder on the careers of men!

I think my husband wouldn't mention lack of sex, quite the opposite and he's probably still exhausted.

Wtf?

Back in the 70s they always did it, dry shave not pleasant, then the enema, and in the 70s the almost automatic episiotomy followed by stitches obviously. Giving birth wasn't the bit lots of us actually worried about.

I do remember one mum had her pubic hair dyed green, she had an emergency CS and woke up to a note saying, "Sorry we had to cut the grass." She said it made her laugh and hurt her stitches so maybe not funny.

That grass story is hilarious @ancientgran. Why did we put up with that shit?

I do remember one mum had her pubic hair dyed green, she had an emergency CS and woke up to a note saying, "Sorry we had to cut the grass." She said it made her laugh and hurt her stitches so maybe not funny.

The version I heard was that, as well as green pubic hair, the mother had a tattoo saying "Keep off the grass".
So someone in the surgical team wrote "Sorry - had to mow the lawn!".

@whynotwhatknot, you absolutely do not have to shave.

Back in the Dark Ages, midwives and nurses would routinely shave women's labia on the maternity wards.

After an outcry by feminists, and studies showing that it was not medically necessary or even desirable from a medical pov because there was a risk of infection from cuts, the practice of shaving all women delivering a baby was stopped.

Since the normalisation of porn, women have started to feel that a shaved undercarriage is de rigeur if they want to have a sex life or deliver a baby.

I had alot of blood loss with DS1 (now aged 12 and in Yr 8). The midwife told DH he needed to bring me a rare steak, wilted spinach and a glass of red wine in bed for breakfast every day to help my recovery.

To be fair I have not yet told him it was only meant to be temporary........

This was a mum who I knew at the school gate, she dyed her hair alot and it was green at the time so I think it was true. This would have been about 1975 when shaving was still quite normal when you were having a baby. I don't thinks he had a tattoo, well she never mentioned it.

It was so regimented back then, I have no idea why we put up with it. The 70s were a strange time in many ways. My mother always claimed it was worse in the 40s/50s when a good dose of castor oil was considered the right way to start things off.

This was a mum who I knew at the school gate, she dyed her hair alot and it was green at the time so I think it was true.

Could well have been true. It's a story I heard a lot in the 80s and 90s, so she could have been the original one; or the staff looking after her may have heard the story and couldn't believe their luck when they actually had some with green pubic hair to try the witticism out on

*someone

So funny- my mother was a nurse in Australia in the 70s and she told me that story as well!

(she also told me many and varied stories of men inserting bottles up their arses and the creative excuses they came up with to explain why it was all a horrible misunderstanding).

She could have been the original couldn't she. We lived in a very quiet conventional sort of area and she was a bit of a one off at the time. It was unusual to see a mother at the school gate with green hair, or sometimes purple, blue or orange. I was a bit of an outsider as well as I had my first at 17 and was alot younger than the other mums so I suppose we were naturals to have a chat.

I was fascinated about how you'd actually manage to do the dye job with a big bump but didn't like to ask. Maybe her husband helped?

Maybe her husband helped?

He's probably the traumatised one on Reddit - never got over it!

Brilliant!

Cubtouring.....genius!! 😂

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