I'm a Dad on this site.

[Dewix]

Accidentally created an account via a Google account pop-up.

Use this site to look up odds & ends.

Am I welcome as a dad or would this be inappropriate?

Welcome to the vipers nest

For those considering having children, this site is definitely an eye opener. I find it odd when parents like to tell those without children but thinking of having them that they "don't know what they're letting themselves in for" or warning them it won't be easy, but then equally will gate keep sites like this and judge new parents who are out of their depth.

Isn't it sad the world we live in makes you feel your not welcome to vent like everyone else if anything I would love a dad's point of view on some things it would help me understand my partner as a father better good for you!

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yeah - women generally talk much more frankly when they don't have men around. This is pretty much the only place on the internet where you will be assumed to be a woman unless you state otherwise. This may at times be too horrific for your delicate male sensibilities to witness, :-D

So long as you don't only comment on sex or porn or use it to PM women coz you are a bit of a chancer then you are very welcome - there's a few blokes who seem to have a word trigger set and relentlessly pop up on posts related to sex and absolutely never post on anything else!!!

I find it odd that non-mums join here too, but some people get quite irked when you say that. I would never have come to mumsnet if I wasn't a mum. I do find it odd. I know some people say 'but there are so many subjects to talk about other than parenting,' but it's still odd (IMO) to join mumsnet if you have no children - or stepchildren/foster children etc. JMO.

Absolutely - I would encourage people at the 'I want to have kids when we can' stage of life to spend time here to get a little bit of parenting with the ukky bits left in perspective. There can be a lot of pressure on Mums not to scare anyone off so irl everything you hear can be a bit one sided I find.

I've no idea what sex most people are on here, we're all anonymous.

Can't you/they just go to digitalspy though?
I mean, the clue is in the website address. I wouldn't go and join a gasket/pistonheads forum without a car.
But maybe that's just me 🤷🏼‍♀️

But what if they have no fingers or aren't actively engaged in espionage?

Different fora aren't interchangeable as each one has a completely different vibe and atmosphere about it. Users engage regularly for interest and the kind of flavour and community that they can best relate to is very important indeed: it's not the same as needing a loaf of standard sliced white bread and not really caring if you pop into Asda, Aldi or Tesco to get one.

I used to watch Top Gear for the banter, even though I'm not particularly bothered about cars. I even watched They Think It's All Over sometimes, back in the olden days, even though I hate sport, as I enjoyed the comedy.

People aren't just single-cell organisms that can be filed away into on specific compartment that suits all of their needs, characteristics and interests.

It’s my observation that the men who come on here are Of A Type. They can’t help telling us us they’re men

well, not really. Your observation is that some men do that. There are plenty others you just assume are women because they didn't say. You have no way of knowing what sex a poster is, you just make assumptions.

Absolutely this. There are also lots of people on here, like me, who have lovely, kind MILS; plenty of users indeed are those nice MILS - but if you only assumed the 'newsworthy' MILs on MN to be indicative of all MILs, you'd have a very skewed idea of hundreds of thousands of ordinary, decent, loving and loved women.

Until the Russians come up with Mumsniet - a site that welcomes everybody except women who have had children - I think we can all get along nicely on here, with the few bad apples quickly called out, challenged and/or shown the door.

I find it odd that non-mums join here too, but some people get quite irked when you say that. I would never have come to mumsnet if I wasn't a mum. I do find it odd. I know some people say 'but there are so many subjects to talk about other than parenting,' but it's still odd (IMO) to join mumsnet if you have no children - or stepchildren/foster children etc. JMO

Why though? Enough people have made the point during this thread but why do you need to have reproduced in order to have an opinion on cooking, or a TV programme, or gardening, or a good brand of dog food. What skills do parents bring to these particular subjects that non-parents don't? If you could explain that then it would help people understand why you think its "odd".

So are pregnant women allowed on here, or do you have to have actually birthed a child before you are allowed on? Because thats a shame as some of the pregnancy threads have been a lifeline to some users on here

My teens use it too. No kids in site.

There may be various topics on here that aren't related to parenting but personally I wouldn't join if I wasn't a mum. I find it curious that despite this being a forum for parents, non parents still feel compelled to join. Perhaps these are the same people who post on black mumsnetters when they aren't black, for example.

Utterly ridiculous thing to say.

There's a whole topic here for posters who are trying to conceive, there isn't one for posters who are trying to be black 🙄🙄

Nobody cares, just don't do the 'as a man [insert pompous waffle here,usually about how you treat your 'lady' like a Princess and why won't she have sex with you]'

Joined for the fertility boards...got involved in other threads in the meantime...turns out my DH and I are pretty infertile. Should I leave?

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But what if they have no fingers or aren't actively engaged in espionage?

Until the Russians come up with Mumsniet - a site that welcomes everybody except women who have had children - I think we can all get along nicely on here, with the few bad apples quickly called out, challenged and/or shown the door.

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Ridiculous argument about non parents, given you have no idea whether people are or not unless they say so, and even then it may not be true. On an anonymous forum, who people are, and their life circumstances are entirely irrelevant. They exist solely as a collection of posts, and its the content of those that matter, whether they're a mother of ten or childless Bernard from Basingstoke.

Same here, came for penis beaker, stayed for "he ate a fat ball". Highly recommend

stayed for "he ate a fat ball". Highly recommend

Wilkos have got them on offer if you're really peckish

Penis Beaker did bring MN a whole load of new posters (and presumably revenue). It was weird for a while.
I still think Penis Beaker was a made up load of old cobblers.

Wilkos have got them on offer if you're really peckish

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I feel the same about most of the classics threads tbf.

I do sometimes wonder whether some of the more fantastical threads that bring in the thousands of new eyeballs might be an inside job - whether started by a journo or MNHQ, both of them working in concert!

I've wondered that too in the past because sometimes they're really hot on deletions when posters have just mildly hinted they think it isn't true.

Could just be coincidence though obviously.