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I'm a Dad on this site.

159 replies

Dewix · 13/06/2022 21:17

Accidentally created an account via a Google account pop-up.

Use this site to look up odds & ends.

Am I welcome as a dad or would this be inappropriate?

OP posts:
Lalosalamanca · 14/06/2022 07:09

@Gusfringrules perhaps! Also LOL

was that not THE BEST SCENE EVER??????!!!!!

you're welcome 😌

SexyLittleNosferatu · 14/06/2022 07:22

Can't you/they just go to digitalspy though?

Are you being serious or just trying to be edgy and goady? So people who haven't reproduced should go to digitalspy so that people who have reproduced don't accidentally have to talk to them and/or obtain their opinion on what's for tea/what car to buy/what food to feed their new cat? Do you genuinely think you're that special? Confused

Gusfringrules · 14/06/2022 07:24

Lalosalamanca · 14/06/2022 07:09

@Gusfringrules perhaps! Also LOL

was that not THE BEST SCENE EVER??????!!!!!

you're welcome 😌

OMG! shocked doesn't come into. Jaw still on floor!😂

Antarcticant · 14/06/2022 07:26

Perhaps these are the same people who post on black mumsnetters when they aren't black, for example.

Why do you think this? That's quite a rude and judgemental thing to say. There are many non-parenting topics for us to post on. Is my 30-odd years of experience keeping cats (for example) irrelevant because I'm not a mum when someone wants advice on their new kitten?

SoupDragon · 14/06/2022 07:27

Guess it's very idealist of me to imagine using a forum aimed exclusively at mothers and actually used solely by mothers.

the tag line is "by parents for parents" which makes it clear that it's not just for mothers though.

I have no issue with fathers or non parents posting at all. I rarely post about parenting now as my children are pretty much grown up. There is SO much more to Mumsnet now.

Lastarse · 14/06/2022 07:27

YABU for announcing it.

SoupDragon · 14/06/2022 07:30

Lastarse · 14/06/2022 07:27

YABU for announcing it.

He hasn't "announced it" , he's are asking whether it is appropriate to post.

"announcing it" is saying "I am a man!" at the start of every post.

Lastarse · 14/06/2022 07:34

Well he started a thread which is a version of announcing it.
I haven’t seen a comparable one from a woman.

YellowAndGreenToBeSeen · 14/06/2022 07:34

@Lalosalamanca I joined because I HAVE a mother. Does that count? She’s a mum, this is Mumsnet… I’m very confused and concerned!

whatsnewpussycat34 · 14/06/2022 07:40

Lalosalamanca · 14/06/2022 07:07

@HappypusSadpus exactly! Not just you at all.

I guess for me the clue is in the title.... "mumsnet"

There may be various topics on here that aren't related to parenting but personally I wouldn't join if I wasn't a mum. I find it curious that despite this being a forum for parents, non parents still feel compelled to join. Perhaps these are the same people who post on black mumsnetters when they aren't black, for example. It baffles me but I suppose it can't be controlled given its an anonymous forum so all types of people join, even though it's not specifically aimed at them.
Guess it's very idealist of me to imagine using a forum aimed exclusively at mothers and actually used solely by mothers.

And what about those of us who are trying everything to become parents? Those of us Who like the support and understanding of others who are going through the same process?

Unfortunately barrenkarens.com doesn't exist yet so you'll just have to put up with us I'm afraid :)

MinnieMountain · 14/06/2022 07:43

@Lalosalamanca so you would have excluded the lovely, supportive poster with terminal cancer on the cancer support thread because she didn’t have DC? Don’t be ridiculous.

BiscoffSundae · 14/06/2022 07:50

Lalosalamanca · 14/06/2022 07:07

@HappypusSadpus exactly! Not just you at all.

I guess for me the clue is in the title.... "mumsnet"

There may be various topics on here that aren't related to parenting but personally I wouldn't join if I wasn't a mum. I find it curious that despite this being a forum for parents, non parents still feel compelled to join. Perhaps these are the same people who post on black mumsnetters when they aren't black, for example. It baffles me but I suppose it can't be controlled given its an anonymous forum so all types of people join, even though it's not specifically aimed at them.
Guess it's very idealist of me to imagine using a forum aimed exclusively at mothers and actually used solely by mothers.

See I agree, whilst I don’t have any problems with it I don’t really get it and talking about people who are child free through choice which seems to be a lot of people on here.

PurpleDaisies · 14/06/2022 07:56

It’s a busy discussion site with a massive range of topics. Who wouldn’t people without kids want to use the site?

Skinnermarink · 14/06/2022 07:58

BiscoffSundae · 14/06/2022 07:50

See I agree, whilst I don’t have any problems with it I don’t really get it and talking about people who are child free through choice which seems to be a lot of people on here.

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you just reminded me of the ‘you can’t sit with us!’ scene in Mean Girls.

But presumably you’re a grown adult woman, so that’s a bit sad really.

Antarcticant · 14/06/2022 08:02

see I agree, whilst I don’t have any problems with it I don’t really get it

OK, then - if you don't 'get it' - what forum should we be on instead? What would be a better choice for use, for general chat/advice on just about anything, as opposed to discussions about specific topics; where women's rights are strongly defended, and that's UK-centric?

BiscoffSundae · 14/06/2022 08:04

I don’t care enough to answer those questions I don’t really care whose on here but I don’t get it, before I had children It would never have occurred to me to join Mumsnet, a lot of posters on here seem to actively dislike children, seems odd to come onto Mumsnet, I wouldn’t join any other group that didn’t apply to me then say well that’s not all they talk about though 🤷‍♀️

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 14/06/2022 08:06

I've been on here about 12 years. The majority of posts I read and post on have nothing to do with parenting .

I'd find it pretty boring if it was a site purely talking about parenting tbh

WhenDovesFly · 14/06/2022 08:08

Lalosalamanca · 14/06/2022 07:07

@HappypusSadpus exactly! Not just you at all.

I guess for me the clue is in the title.... "mumsnet"

There may be various topics on here that aren't related to parenting but personally I wouldn't join if I wasn't a mum. I find it curious that despite this being a forum for parents, non parents still feel compelled to join. Perhaps these are the same people who post on black mumsnetters when they aren't black, for example. It baffles me but I suppose it can't be controlled given its an anonymous forum so all types of people join, even though it's not specifically aimed at them.
Guess it's very idealist of me to imagine using a forum aimed exclusively at mothers and actually used solely by mothers.

Mumsnet is over 20 years old and the site has evolved to include a lot more subjects than parenting. The world has moved on and you'll find that even some women have penises nowadays. There are threads here on that subject too.

It's a bit like Iceland (the shop). They sell all sorts of fresh and dry groceries now too, not just frozen food, but they haven't changed their name because it's a well established brand.

RenegadeMatron · 14/06/2022 08:11

The world has moved on and you'll find that even some women have penises nowadays.

Transwomen have penises.

Women definitely do not.

Skinnermarink · 14/06/2022 08:13

Yeah, women can’t and do not have penises. I think you mean transwomen.

Sparklingbrook · 14/06/2022 08:14

Loads of men on here (a very large amount seem to be on the Sex topic) but in general they don't announce it. Usernames sometimes give it away. But the truth is nobody knows who anyone on here is you can be whoever you want.

Tabasco007 · 14/06/2022 08:14

Dewix · 13/06/2022 21:17

Accidentally created an account via a Google account pop-up.

Use this site to look up odds & ends.

Am I welcome as a dad or would this be inappropriate?

I'm a women without kids and I live mumsnet! Seems lots of dada chatting on here.

Tabasco007 · 14/06/2022 08:15

Seen, not seems.

ChrisReasBathEggs · 14/06/2022 08:22

OP, I bet that after reading this thread you dont want to be on MN anymore anyway. People descending into arguments over nothing and derailing threads, lots of stealth boasting from fantasists (although some genuinely successful people too who offer great advice). There are some great threads eith brilliant advice on here and some really funny lighthearted ones, but my God you do have to pick through the crap to find a gem sometimes. 😉

0pheIiaBalls · 14/06/2022 08:35

Dewix · 13/06/2022 21:20

yabu: I'll leave

yaNbu: I'll stay

New eh 🤨