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To not want to have sex with my partner

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Grumpcat · 13/06/2022 18:57

I've had enough! Me and dps sex life has gone cold turkey. The only times we ever have sex he attempts it by just shoving himself inside me and thrusting for a couple of minutes to then be done.

I've communicated with him on multiple occasions I do not like this because

A. I'm not in the mood. No foreplay and going straight to it hurts

B Its selfish and I gain no pleasure from it. So it's just all about him

C it makes me feel used and like a sex doll

He said he understood and would never do it again. Well after months of nothing and him agreeing he wants our sex life to be less one sided and more about me he has done it again!

Right after a lovely anniversary meal. He claims he "read the signs wrong" but I absolutely showed him no signs and regardless if he felt confused he knew I don't like sex in this way.

It's happened way too many times now to be a mistake.

I'm hurt and furious. We are meant to be moving into our new home and getting married. But I don't feel I can trust him sexually or even that I want to have sex with him anymore.

I know this isn't really an Aibu but I have no one to tell and I'm just so upset. We have been working so hard at our relationship and he goes and ruins it all by thinking with his d!ck and not considering me. I feel violated and disrespected.

OP posts:
Pinkdelight3 · 13/06/2022 22:02

What am I reading here?? You poor love. He doesn't listen when you say you don't want his shit sex. He doesn't listen when you say no. If you'd said no when he was in you, he wouldn't listen. And now he tries to silence you when you call it what it is. I'm horrified that you've agreed to marry this man who is incapable of listening and therefore unsurprisingly incapable of giving a shit about you in bed. I can't begin to fathom how a man like that manages to get and keep a woman long enough to have 2 DC, but he really shouldn't keep you any longer. It's just awful and you need to be listened to and valued in bed and out of it!

Thepeopleversuswork · 15/06/2022 09:54

Whatever you do, don’t marry him.

You’re not attracted to him and he doesn’t respect you or listen to you.

It won’t get any better if he sees himself as having got his feet under the table.

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