So my DC are early teens. I've not been with their father for their entire life - he left me while I was pregnant.
Im now married, with a child with my DH. Myself and ex have a perfectly friendly co parenting relationship and he is engaged to a very nice woman who is effectively my DCs step-mum although they don't call her mum as they've only known her 5 years.
Anyway - the expectation has always been that I buy fathers day and bday gifts from the kids to my ex. I've quietly suggested to them that now they're older, they could have the convo with "stepmum" about taking this on but I guess they are embarrassed to.
I just don't entirely see why I'm paying out for gifts for my ex. She's quite happy to post pics and parenting memes etc on Facebook but in fairness, I reckon she's never even been asked about this so maybe it hasn't crossed her mind. My DCs get a small allowance per month which technically they could use to buy gifts but that feels a bit mean too.
AIBU to think it shouldn't be me, or do I just keep doing it?