Do you have sleep in separate bedrooms?

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Do you and your partner share a bed or do you have separate bedrooms?

It's quite the taboo so I have no idea how normal or not this is. Disturbed sleep brought an end to our bed sharing and surprisingly we are both much much happier for it. But I feel like that doesn't sound normal!

Couple relations are probably better than before so no complaints there either.

Anyone else? Do you keep it a secret or are you open about it if the topic crops up?

Yes we do while dh waits for an operation for a deviated septum that causes constant snoring. I was on my knees with lack of sleep. The only problem is the spare bedroom doesn't have a decent set up of blackout blinds and so I've been waking with the sun for several months. Made it to 5:30am today and was woken by jackdaws scrapping on the roof. They come back and have another go every ten minutes. The joys of being in a three story house. It seems I am forever destined to not sleep. It's been two years since I can say I had a solid seven hours 😔.
Most of my close friends and family know our set up. It is what it is.

Separate beds and bedrooms doesn't mean the end of an intimate relationship anymore than sharing a room and a bed means that there is an intimate relationship.

Good point

I love sleeping separately from my DH. I get such a better sleep without him snoring, coughing, shuffling around, getting up for a wee etc - it drives me mad.

We go to bed together in the evening to watch an episode of our favourite series, have a few chats, have sex and then I wave him goodbye and tootle off to my own room.

It’s the perfect set-up 😂

Yes separate beds. We love it. Sometimes we have to share if we have visitors- we both don't sleep then. I didn't know it is taboo ?

I love breaking 'rules' and doing things that are apparently socially unacceptable (like proposing to my Husband on one knee, not taking his surname etc.... ).

We've never slept in the same room - not before we were married... or after. I go to bed at 10.30pm and am an exceptionally light sleeper (ear plugs, cold room with window open but double duvets) and get up by 07.30am. I also sleep on my side with 4 pillows 'strategically placed' around me due to previous back injuries. He plays computer games, goes to bed at approximately 1.30am and gets up by 8.30am weekdays / 10.30am weekends, likes a warm room with the windows shut, lies on his back and snores......

Screw that for a lark. It's always challenging when we're away together - sometimes he brings a blow up mattress and sleeping bag for 'emergencies' and tries to sleep on his side if possible, but most of the time if we're in a hotel, we ask for a twin room and make the best of it.

I wouldn't care if someone judges me / my relationship.... We both function so much better on good sleep, so why make both of ourselves tired and miserable just to 'keep up appearances' that don't matter?

We have a king sized bed, cut in half, customised and rebuilt, with 2 specific types of mattresses, beds pushed together. We both snore as loud as the other, I wear ear plugs. Random hot and sweaty middle of the night shags arent a thing anymore but we still get it together, at other times, no worries.

We sleep separately through the week and at weekends if one of us particularly tired/ wants a lie in.

We still have plenty of sex.

If you want to sleep separately then fine and it has nothing to do with your sex life

Separate rooms here and it's great - we work very different hours so it stops us waking each other up. We both have our rooms set up to be as comfy as possible which is different for both of us - I like a soft squishy mattress I can sink into and DH has to have a firmer one.

I'm also always freezing in bed and DH always says he's too hot - yet if we share he'll nick the duvet.🙄

It doesn't stop us visiting each other's rooms and our sex life is fine!

I just prefer sharing my bed with the cats 😅

Forgot to add we do share on holidays etc.