To allow this to happen

[Ness30]

So my neighbours are terrible. I hear them arguing very loudly almost every day, they have 3 kids and I just really feel for them.

one night the woman drove her car away and he smashed the windscreen whilst she was driving away?

I just feel so sorry for the kids having to listen to the constant shouting, swearing. DH said this is none of my business and my guy is telling me he is right but it is really uncomfortable sometimes.

I mean, the woman will decide when she has had enough, regardless of my input.

I would’ve reported that to the police.

It’s all no one’s business until a child gets caught in the crossfire and then there’s the outcry.

Witnessing DV as a child can be extremely damaging.

I know, I just keep thinking about the poor kids …I could make things worse?

Knowing that the children and mother are subjected to abuse daily and not reporting them you are allowing it to happen.
Those children deserve a better life than their current situation and you can help.

Absolutely I would be reporting this, there's no way on this earth I could sit back knowing and doing nothing

Call the police next time and every time you hear it and report that it happens often and there are kids in the house. They will attend on blue lights and take it seriously.

This!!!

I keep thinking it isn’t my place to decide what she is or isn’t happy with. Obviously it is the kids that are my main concern

Reporting abuse is EVERYONE'S job!!

I agree with others, I would be reporting it to the police every single time.

The kids aren't able to decide for themselves when they've "had enough" - they need someone else to do that for them. I've been that child witnessing DV (and then eventually it does start on them too) - I wish someone phoned the police every time

’Neighbours next door are in toxic relationship and kids are witnessing abuse but I’m not going to report it’

That’s the crux of this thread. What’s the point? When is the line crossed? Black eyes? Broken bones? Kids hurt

You know you should report it but don’t want to. What do you want from this?

When my ndn's have wild rows I report them. Even rang 999 twice. No regrets.

I just want to do the right thing for everybody involved. They might not want me to report it?

I am obviously concerned though, my DH will not back me in reporting it I don’t think.

Be a responsible, empathetic citizen and report it.Allow the professionals to progress it from there.

Can you explain why your husband doesn't want to report? Are you scared they'll turn on you? I'm not goading, genuinely trying to see it from your point of view

Many years ago I reported a neighbour for repeatedly leaving a small dc home alone Friday nights. He would be screaming for him mam out of an open upstairs window.. My dh lost his shit when I told him. At me not them!! No regrets though. They were a well know 'wrong un' family. Some people can't parent without intervention..
Maybe ss could offer support.

he is worried about the repercussions yes

Stop thinking of reasons not to do it and think of the impact of what’s going on, on the kids. If it’s distressing for you as an adult living next door, how do you think it feels for the kids who live in it every day?

I know 😭

As long as he's not dangerous and won't know it was you. You have that to consider.

Try contacting the NSPCC for advice as the main concern is for the children (apologies if someone already said this!)

I would try contacting the NSPCC for advice. Good luck

I mean, obviously he's a danger to her but do you think that could extend to you and your family's lives being made hell if they knew it was you?

Those children need people to stand up for them. Police and social care may already be aware. School could have reported some concerns and your report could give further context to the home situation.

Please report it. It can be anonymous so unless you are their only neighbour there is nothing to say it was you. Plenty of people could hear what's happening and have witnessed what he did.

Smashing the windscreen is a really scary act of violence so I'd be worried about their immediate safety if he's that volatile.

yes I agree.