At what age do your looks fade?

[Katie901]

I am coming up to 30 and really worried about this

No one’s looks ‘fade’ until they are dead rotting in the ground! Your looks and features are always still there.

people all age at very different rates, I would say most people will start to look less youthful mid to late 40sz. I looked at my best at 39/ early 40s. But still attract plenty of men at 50.

You, OP, are wasting your youth worrying about age.

I think i peaked, looks wise, at about 5.

I'm 44 and am really noticing sagging skin for the first time. And massive bags under my eyes. Still got it though, lol.

@Attractinglife There's a comment that needs a like button!! My mother remarried at 70...

My MIL is 55 and looks unbelievable! There’s hope!

I’m 53. I think I’m looking my best now. I’ve kind of grown into my face if that makes sense? However I know that people usually assume I’m mid 40s.

I'm early 60s and still look quite striking. Skin still good although the jowls are appearing...I look after my health.
Most importantly I am happy. I have ditched toxic people, give not two hoots about what others think and refuse to engage with negative people.

People can look lovely when they naturally age. I dislike the look when too much work has been done on a face to keep it looking young. It becomes very obvious and fake looking in some cases.

In my own situation- I'm 46 and have noticed a sudden increase in signs of aging over last couple years, especially around my eyes, skin on my hands etc. At 30 it will still be a decade off before it becomes noticeable to others.

I'm 49 and just can't join in with all the self criticism I see and hear around me. I have much younger friends and colleagues who talk about their skin, weight, looks in such a derogatory way. They all look how they should, with beauty and individuality.

My looks have changed, I'm older. I'm heavier, sometimes look tired but I just don't see it as a bad thing for me or anyone. I'm just happy to have my life and health.

As long as we equate youth with beauty and 'good looks', women's worth will continue to be measured by their appearance and perceived age. Some older women feel invisible as they age and no wonder if we constantly prize youth as the standard of beauty.

I think I got more unattractive with each child, or I just had less time to spend on beautifying myself! I remember reading an article once about the fact alot of models become depressed in their late 30s/40s as their whole career and life is based around their looks. I try not to focus to much on how I look anymore, it is what it is. Age is coming for us all

My looks haven't faded. They've changed. There's a difference.
I had the worst kind of trauma when I was 40 and I physically changed almost overnight. I looked lifeless. Grey. Like a different person.
I'm nearly 50 now and I've clawed my way back out of the abyss and christ my face and body have reflected that
I'm suddenly an older version of the "real me"
Recognisably Weatherwax.
DH said to me a few months ago "you look all glossy again" I made some quip about being old recently and he said "don't be daft, you're in your prime, woman. Look at you"
So yeah, I'm sure I absolutely look my age but I have a spark and confidence that I faked in my 20s but now it's genuine and I've never been more content with how I look.

Love the self confidence here!

Early 60s and don’t feel faded, just fatter and with lines. It’s definitely harder work than when I was younger though. I spend more time on skincare and make up in the last few years. I do it for myself - it feels nurturing. Mainly I think I’m more than my looks but I take pleasure in looking the best I can. My mum looks really good still, not at all faded, more mellowed.

Eat a healthy diet, exercise, no smoking or alcohol. Take collagen supplements daily and avoid sunburns. Do all this and you will look great well into your 40’s and 50’s.

I don’t think they do in someone that has a really good personality and cares about their appearance. I’ve seen some amazing looking elderly ladies.The ones whose eyes sparkle because they’re still enjoying life. Being so worried about this has the potential to result in bitterness and envy towards youth - and that will show in your looks. Just have a good skincare routine, smile and be grateful you’re alive and in good health.

I'm 38 and certainly think my looks are changing, but not fading. I'm not just saying that to be super positive, I genuinely mean it.

Yes, I tut when I see another grey, Google another "wonder serum when I notice more lines, wish my hair was as thick as it was 10 years ago etc, BUT, attractiveness is so much more than all that. I know I come across as much more confident now, have discovered my true style and I generally feel more sexy.

It's all about how you feel, but If you're constantly comparing yourself to filtered "influencers", you'll always feel crap. The fact you're worried about turning 30 (!!) OP is quite sad.

I felt as if I lost something though I’m not sure what after menopause. If only I could find it again like when I put my keys or phone down and forget where they are.

This is how I strive to feel, I admire this attitude.

I try to remind myself that it's ok to look older than I used to because I AM older!! And it's not my fault because I didn't take collagen or get Botox or whatever.

But it's hard not to let self criticism creep in, especially when you work with much younger people, or when looking at my adult daughters' lovely smooth faces and bodies.

I'm 43, I've never looked better.

I have zero wrinkles, zero.

My advise to you is to stick a bit of cream on your face every night and you'll see the benefits in your later years.

I don't care how I look and that confidence is something great that comes with age.

Although yeah, I started noticing wrinkles in my late thirties. Wouldn't call it fading.

The time to worry is when you look through the mirror & see your grandmother looking back at you.

I have never been pretty, just average so nothing to fade for me.

Mine stood up really nicely until I was 61. They fell off a cliff when I lost both parents six months apart. Now I look OK for an old bird again. Stress and grief can take their toll but it’s not irreversible.

I think there's a period when kids are young and time consuming, your body and mind changes from being young and you lose your style from 'hip and young' to 'stressed and time poor' when I know I looked - maybe not awful but definitely bland or faded. Frankly I was shattered, limited in time and brain width and put myself too far down the list.

Equally for me the perfect storm was kids growing up so I have time to make an effort, post menopause means I don't give a shit anymore, and reminding myself of styles that make me happy (for me wide leg pants, sneakers, or floaty but not hippy dresses). I'm still a bit flabby, don't love my bingo wings etc, but I look good for 50+ so so much much than I looked at 35+ or when kids were young.