To not ask my friend how she is right away?

[curiousitygotthebetterofme]

One of my friends tested positive for covid on a lateral flow on Monday and has posted about it a few times on her Facebook stories. She’ll know I’ve viewed each one but never asked her how she was.

I had covid back in December, I was ok, and I had mentioned it on one of my Facebook stories as I needed advice about it and she viewed the story but didn’t message me to ask how I was until about a week later.

I feel like I’m being petty, I probably am to an extent, but I have had issues with fake friends and I don’t want to be running after people. I do intend to ask her how she’s feeling but not just yet.

AIBU to do this?

YABU - just ask her how she is
YANBU - I guess if she did the same, just ask her in a few days

Yes you are being petty. Just ask her if you care

Or recognize that you don't see this person as your actual friend, so maybe it's time to reassess the relationship?

Two wrongs don't make a right.

It doesn't sound like you even care to be her friend. If that's the case, delete her off of your Facebook. All of this tit for tat nonsense is ridiculous.

I do care, but she is clearly not severely Sick with it so I don’t see why it can’t wait for a few days

What a boring thing to do a Facebook story about.

Very petty

Just ask her. You're not at school.

You really are determined to prove a point. Which is pointless, as it will be lost on her anyway.
Sorry, but you're being childish and petty.

Ok I guess I’m being petty, I’ll be the bigger person and ask her how she is

Aside from the childish attitude towards Facebook I'm wondering why you would be asking how she is. It's covid and the majority are not impacted hugely. Had she specific medical issues that mean she may be quite unwell?

No she doesn’t. I thought that too but then it’s still covid I guess?

she’s vaccinated too

Well done for asking her how she is.
It wouldn't have solved anything for either of you if you'd deliberately avoided asking her. She probably won't even remember that she forgot to ask you straight away. Maybe she had something else on her mind at the time.

I guess you’re right. I have had people take advantage of me in the past and I’d be lying if I said it didn’t make me feel bitter at times as sometimes I struggle to work out who is genuine and who is fake, but I can’t allow that to make me overthink everyone’s actions as I will start to lose friends

People can see who view their FB stories ?!

Yes it tells you.

Ridiculous and petty

Oh yes 😆

@jubileetrain maybe you didn’t feel that impacted by Covid but I feel like I’ve been hit by a truck.

@curiousitygotthebetterofme maybe your friend is attention seeking by putting it FB and so what she didn’t ask you. If you care about someone treat them like you care, if you don’t wind the friendship down. All this tit for tat is very petty

maybe you didn’t feel that impacted by Covid but I feel like I’ve been hit by a truck.

Right, you you are not 'the majority' then. As it happens I was very fortunate, but that's not particularly relevant.

That's fine; but I don't think grown-ups should be playing tit for tat Facebook games. You're not obliged to contact her instantly; but it shouldn't IMO be in a spirit of petty revenge.

Oh, sorry, didn't RTFT. I see that you're now contacting her.

You won’t need to ask her. No doubt she’ll put it on Facebook.

How do you know that if you haven't asked how she is?

If you’re thinking this much into it, I’d reconsider the friendship tbh OP. It sounds childish.