Spent receptacle

[WishAway]

This is how my DH referred to me when speaking to our teen ds earlier. In regards to me having birthed his children. AIBU to be highly offended?

Ew 🚶

I don’t even understand.

Teen ds thought it was hilarious. I'm gutted he had so little respect for me. Fwiw, I've always lost the baby weight and am still the same size I was when we met.

Er what? What a vile comment, and particularly saying it to make your DS laugh, what does he think he is teaching his son about women??

I beg your pardon?! What an inutterably horrible and gross thing to say. And I'd be damned angry with my son for being so clueless as to think it was funny. In fact, the pair of them would be getting their arse handed to them on a plate, their washing given for them to do, and absolutely downed tools on my part, until I got a heartfelt apology from them both.

I think some more context would help here, but in isolation, yes, it's gross. It's not respectful of you or of women in general.

So that makes him a spent ball sack?

You have to be a troll. No woman would be seriously asking if thids bullshit is reasonable. Find something else to do.

Def not a troll. According to him IABU for getting mad, as he says it was just a joke.

So he thinks offending you is funny? Weird.

And he was stupid enough to say this to his own children? He's not the sharpest knife in the box, is he.

This! What a tool.

Well he is just a rude sperm donor then...

The pair of them can do their own washing & cooking point for a while...

So he views you as a “receptacle” for his “seed”. And, having fulfilled your use as a birthing vessel, now you are “spent”? I could not live with someone who thought of me this way. He sounds pathetic and immature - being openly contemptuous of you to show off to your son.

Tbh I'd advise anyone else to LTB. But he's great in lots of other ways. This just feels unforgivable. Don't feel like being intimate with him ever again. He says I'm over reacting.

Jokes are funny though. What he said was just plain disrespectful. Did he refer to himself as a spent ejaculator?

Was he referring to your womb?

He was referring to my body, as we were discussing fitness levels. I told him I've birthed him 4 children and my body is amazing.

Oh I would be using that at every opportunity if I didn't leave him first
"Where's my clean shirt?"
"Sorry, I'm spent"
"We haven't had sex for 4 months"
"Sorry, spent"

What a weird term to use. Surely he knew how insulting it would be to call you that. Its something that's used then thrown away

Your teen DS found it funny.
That’s what would I’d be more annoyed about if I was you. Little arsehole.

I'm very upset about it being said in front of our teen ds. Even worse is that ds found it hilarious and they had this whole laddy "ooooh now she's mad" laugh about it together.

Losing the dead weight will improve you immensely

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As in him.

I think you should listen to your own advice and LTB, at least for a few days if you can.
If you can’t do that because of the needs of your children, then I agree with others, just mentally leave him and do not do his washing, cooking, whatever. And I would include your 17 year old in that.
such massive disrespect from both.

Kick his misogynistic arse out the door, and focus on re-educating your mini-misogynist son before it's too late.