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PotentialOnlyFansGirl · 08/06/2022 08:42

Regular poster but name-changed for obvious reasons.

I have been out of work for around 15 years. Firstly as a SAHM and then because of serious illness.

I have now been back looking for work for around 3 years, and tbh it is impossible.

I have a disability which rules me out of certain jobs such as supermarket or hospitality work or I would go and work there in a heartbeat.

And admin type roles are still the kinds of roles where we’re in an employer’s market, and I’m not even getting interviews.

I’ve had professionals look over my cv and applications, and they have all said there is no issue there so I can only assume that it’s because of the length of time I’ve been out of work compared to the fact that people who have been out of work for less time are far more common.

I am applying for entry level roles at this point, as I realise that my time out of the job market means that nobody will consider me for higher level roles such as I was doing before I left.

I have now resigned myself to the fact that I am just unemployable, but I am desperate to earn a living, and as degrading as it is I am seriously considering signing up to only fans?

I am nothing to look at, but I am told there’s a market for everything, so even though I’m definitely not model material, someone out there will likely pay, right?

Yes, I know it’s degrading, and I know that technically I shouldn’t want to do it and I don’t. But I literally don’t see any other choice at this point.

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Notmytiep · 08/06/2022 08:45

People will even pay to see feet on that thing...crack on babes!

Rreaq · 08/06/2022 08:47

I get the temptation (also gone through huge periods of unemployment due to a disability) but only fans will just compound that, pictures will get leaked and its just more of a gap on your cv that cannot be explained.

Standards5 · 08/06/2022 08:48

If you did I would ensure it's nothing that has your face / could potentially be linked back to you. I wouldn't judge though. It's horrible that people are getting this desperate but judge? No absolutely not.

jubileetrain · 08/06/2022 08:49

Do you have a hug following on any social media platforms? Without that your OF page will not make you much. You need the followers.

jubileetrain · 08/06/2022 08:49

*huge

Curiosity101 · 08/06/2022 08:50

Do whatever works for you. But based on the words you've used I'm not sure you'll find OnlyFans does anything positive for you. So if you do try it then also make sure you keep applying to the jobs you are excited about.

I'd also recommend looking into volunteering in the area you want to work in (or any area tbh). It'll help build up your experience and make you look more desirable to potential employers and help build your local network.

IncompleteSenten · 08/06/2022 08:53

It's your choice.

It is really saddening that you feel your only option to support yourself is to degrade yourself. This shouldn't be a choice anyone has to make.

PotentialOnlyFansGirl · 08/06/2022 08:55

I'd also recommend looking into volunteering in the area you want to work in (or any area tbh). It'll help build up your experience and make you look more desirable to potential employers and help build your local network. a lot of employers will no longer accept volunteer references. I’ve seen a lot of jobs recently where the demand has been for professional references from paid employment within anything from the last 2-5 years.

At this point I’m not particularly excited about any of the jobs I apply for. A job’s a job and beggars can’t be choosers. My thinking is that if I could get into a job, any job, then it would be easier to move into something in the future as it’s easier to get a job when you already have one, because it shows your willingness to work at least.

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RaininSummer · 08/06/2022 08:59

Could you look at jobs with companies like EE or Sitel as I think they often provide training? I don't think only fans is the answer. Are you on universal credit? If so could you ask to speak with a disability employment advisor?

PotentialOnlyFansGirl · 08/06/2022 09:00

IncompleteSenten · 08/06/2022 08:53

It's your choice.

It is really saddening that you feel your only option to support yourself is to degrade yourself. This shouldn't be a choice anyone has to make.

I wonder how long it will be before job centres start telling people they need to start considering this in order to get them off benefits.

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worraliberty · 08/06/2022 09:07

I think the fact you had to name change from one anonymous internet name to another, proves it's not for you.

I mean you could try doing it without showing your face as a PP suggested, but I can't see why anyone would want to pay for that given hundreds of thousands are willing to show theres.

Just something to consider and once your face is 'out there' doing whatever it is you're thinking of doing, it's out there forever.

worraliberty · 08/06/2022 09:07

*theirs

Junebughustle · 08/06/2022 09:10

OnlyFans isn't a guaranteed way of making a livable income. The people on it who earn the most money already have sizeable social media followings/are celebrities in some way. You'll have to post 'enticing' photos on social media accounts, Reddit etc. Is that something you are prepared to do?

jubileetrain · 08/06/2022 09:11

So, do you have a large SM following?

Junebughustle · 08/06/2022 09:12

Also, I don't know if this would bother you, but onlyfans content often gets leaked onto pornhub.

RumpBelle · 08/06/2022 09:15

The 'feet' comment is only half of the story though.
Yes some people have fetishes such as feet, however, they are never confined to just looking at feet with a nice manicure. Why would anyone pay for that when they could just Google images or look at a shoe magazine?
What will happen is it'll start off as just show me your feet. Then massage feet. Then insert feet into x. You'll end up doing extreme porn.

Quite frankly it's not an easy way to make money. It takes advantage of women who think so. Don't forget that if you ever do have the opportunity to enter the workplace you'll be penalised for engaging in sex work. It'll also mean certain career paths are off the cards altogether. Teacher, politician etc.

As a previous poster suggested, you have to make a long term plan to get back into work. Start with voluntary work in a charity shop. Employers only care about the most recent gaps on your CV so doing this for six months to a year will fill the gap nicely.
Get a qualification. Work out what you want to do in the long run and do the first step towards it(it needn't be an expensive or lengthy course, just enough to give you edge.) For example key skills in maths etc.
If you are on jobseekers insist they send you as many vacancies as possible. Be clear about the hours you can do etc.

Onlyfans is basically pyramid selling with porn. You won't make any money.

BobLep0nge · 08/06/2022 09:15

Any pics or videos you post will be on the internet for ever.

Rockellsspecial · 08/06/2022 09:16

Could you sign up to Copify or similar and do some copy writing? Or Appen? A lot of people on here were making about 1000 a month using Appen etc and you'll be using your brain and can put it on your CV? Search in Money section on here and you'll find the how to make x amount a month threads.

Justleaveitblankthen · 08/06/2022 09:18

From what I have read, it seems to be a lot more work and hassle than uploading a photo and raking in money 🤔
Aren't you supposed to be regularly in contact with your 'fans' etc? I don't have any issue with it whatsoever, except that I couldn't be bothered with 'befriending' and enticing my followers all day, connecting instragram links blah blah.
Also, am sceptical of celebs like Kerry Katona who claim to have made a million pounds in 12 months 🙄
Personally, I'm too lazy to even use Social media whatsoever, so it's definitely not for me.

CloseYourEyesAndSee · 08/06/2022 09:19

OF is not an easy way to make money. You will need to be active on social media and show your face, interact with people who want you to do sexual things and pretend to like it, and you
probably still won't make much money. It's not the answer.

PotentialOnlyFansGirl · 08/06/2022 09:20

No I don’t want to do any of it tbh, the whole idea fills me with horror. I just don’t see how else I can make a living, so being told I won’t earn money from it is actually quite encouraging, iyswim.

It took 5 weeks for the job centre to tell me we have a disability employment adviser. I was told they would be in touch and that was 2 weeks ago and I’ve heard nothing, even though I’ve enquired again as to how I speak to them.

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PotentialOnlyFansGirl · 08/06/2022 09:23

Rockellsspecial · 08/06/2022 09:16

Could you sign up to Copify or similar and do some copy writing? Or Appen? A lot of people on here were making about 1000 a month using Appen etc and you'll be using your brain and can put it on your CV? Search in Money section on here and you'll find the how to make x amount a month threads.

Thank you I will have a look.

I have looked previously although thought all seemed to advise matched betting which definitely isn’t for me either and from what I’ve read you have to have money to start with to make money from it.

But if there are other more desirable ways to make money I’m prepared to explore those.

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inmyslippers · 08/06/2022 09:26

Only fans isn't easy money. Around 80% of the income heads to the top 10% of performers. It's a huge market. You need a following and a niche to stand out

RumpBelle · 08/06/2022 09:31

Can you join a recruitment agency op? It's free and they will give advice, tailor your CV, actively seek roles out for you?
What about your old career path? Is that something viable or does your disability rule it out

Tothemoonandbackx · 08/06/2022 09:35

Don't want to out myself too much. But bookies (Bet Fred, Ladbrokes, Corals etc.) are all understaffed at the minute. You don't have to say what disability you've got, but if it's a physical one, there's not much except opening the machines and putting papers up that's physically demanding and even then, it's really easy.