Just that really. My DC is having a third birthday party which 25 other children will attend. Is it ok to ask that no gifts be given by the other children? My DC will be given a couple of significant presents by me and my DH. I find the flood of gifts for birthdays and Xmas these days completely overwhelming and I don't want it to become the norm for my DC. We already have so much.
AIBU?
AIBU to have a no gift policy for my DC's third birthday?
dillydally24 · 07/06/2022 09:23
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLprescribingmum · 08/06/2022 11:20
@StoppinBy this would be the ultimate sin on MN where it is considered extremely grabby to consider asking for what is wanted and needed.
You cannot win, if you specify no gifts, it is rude and no-one wants to come empty handed. According to many PP you are also cruel and denying your child the opportunity to open presents and receive endless stuff that they do not need🙄. If you say money only, you are asking for gifts and that is grabby and rude. If you say nothing, you end up with stuff you need to find a new home for (and usually still ends up in landfill within the next year)....
My personal opinion when hosting (for adults or children) is that the cost of hosting is on me and I do not expect anything in return for doing so. I have invited people because I/my child enjoys their company and that is all I would like. If they feel they must bring something, a consumable item is perfect. When we end up hosting a children's party alone, I will be asking for books or a consumable item
Needmorelego · 08/06/2022 16:29
@prescribingmum how on earth can a school dictate what a person does for their child's birthday. It's none of their business who gets invited to a child's birthday party. How would they even know?
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prescribingmum · 08/06/2022 17:32
No it does not just include invites handed out at school. They are fully aware that there is a parents Whatsapp group and all invites go out on there rather than on paper.
You're all right in that they probably cannot enforce it if a parent did host for a select few but it is very clear they do not approve and have requested for parties to be whole class parties or nothing in the first 2 years. Parents have obliged and got together with others with birthdays at the same time as no-one wants to be that parent who has rebelled. It has achieved the aim of no-one hosting for majority and leaving just a few out so I would say it is effective
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