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To think that Len Goodman was stating a fact about his Nan, not insulting anything or anyone?

196 replies

Notjustanymum · 06/06/2022 08:14

Just that, really. He (at the age of 78) was saying that his Nan had a bigoted view (commonly held in the 1950’s), that any food vaguely “foreign” - including pasta, in the 1970’s, according to my own DF - was muck, which had, in truth, put him off trying it.
He also said that the Coronation Chicken his wife had made was delicious. Why would people complain about that? He was actually disproving his Nan’s statement and saying she was wrong.
I think that too many people try to cancel the views of the past, but it’s totally true that many people of that generation held views that are not acceptable today, and we shouldn’t forget that, as we learn from mistakes.
I really object to the BBC apologising for his statement, as it makes it seem as if he was in the wrong.
So - what do you think?
YABU - we shouldn’t mention past intolerances for fear of offending someone now
YANBU - we should accept that there were intolerances and be happy that people find ways of overcoming these

OP posts:
Sundayvibes · 06/06/2022 09:55

There’s a restaurant in Saltash ( Cornwall ) called
‘ Foreign Muck ‘. It caused some controversy a few years back I remember.

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 06/06/2022 09:56

@Alleycat1 - my parents used to have a holiday home in SW France and got friendly with their neighbours.

They went over for dinner but the one time DM invited them over they seemed quite rude saying 'Oh Madame Yvette won't have the food that way' etc.

French are quite old fashioned though, they like separate dishes (meat, vegetables etc). They do have curry houses, Chinese takeaways but few and far between and even in bigger cities (their nearest were Saintes, La Rochelle and Bordeaux it still seemed very French re cuisine.

LeftFootForward · 06/06/2022 09:57

kolomo · 06/06/2022 08:56

I'm so sick of fucking Twitter. Can't we just turn it off.

I actually have turned off myself and basically stopped watching TV and reading newspapers because of this endless bullshit. The media needs some kind of intervention. They need to just get the hell off Twitter.

Yup, agree with all of tis @kolomo

I too am heartily sick of some twitter bollocks being reported as 'news'.

I read somewhere recently that only 14% of the UK have a Twitter account and I assume of that 14% many people will either not use it very much or it will be work related only (guilty as charged) so the real number spouting this nonsense is probably quite low.

IMO if you read it on Twitter it's rubbish and not representative of the general population so can safely be ignored - remember how Jeremy Corbyn was going to storm the election....according to Twitter ? 😂

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 06/06/2022 09:59

Len was having none of it. Didn't like any of it. Turned his nose up at anything "foreign". He is not a nice man.

There's plenty of food that I won't eat, does that mean I'm not nice? I would never eat a spicy curry for example (I'll eat a korma but that's about it) and I wouldn't touch sushi.

Each to their own.

newnamethanks · 06/06/2022 09:59

For the professionally offended, I recommend Ricky Gervais, Supernature, on Netflix. It will keep you fanning the flames of self indulgent and unnecessary outrage till next Christmas and give everyone else a rest.

Stroopwaffels · 06/06/2022 10:02

It wasn't that he wouldn't eat the food. It was his sneering, superior, suspicious attitude while refusing to do so.

Dancefever · 06/06/2022 10:04

I agree with you op but I must admit, I did wince when he said it.

Beamish22 · 06/06/2022 10:05

VickyEadieofThigh · 06/06/2022 09:55

The thing is, I saw len Goodman on a programme about food a few years ago - and he said "I don't like any of that foreign muck".

Doesn't bother me in the sense that he's entitled to like what he likes, but not good on the BBC which spends a feckin' fortune on its 'diversity' unit, policing what is said and not said.

Really? The comment made such an impression on you a few years ago that you remember it to this day?

TargusEasting · 06/06/2022 10:05

orwellwasright · 06/06/2022 08:25

Great! A BBC bashing thread from the Mumsnet Tories.

The BBC is rotten to the core. Time to go.

Brainwave89 · 06/06/2022 10:07

My Indian grandmother was deeply suspicious of English/American food. I recall her being very adventurous and eating a MacDs breakfast! Same thing, happens all over the world. No reason for the BBC to apologise.

MissTrip82 · 06/06/2022 10:08

I suppose I find the assumption that this was normal, and that working class people born at a certain time were roaring xenophobes, rather tiresome.

My maternal grandfather (born 1910) and my father (born late 20s) were nothing like this.

Open-minded people have existed rather longer than many seem to believe.

JudgeJ · 06/06/2022 10:11

orwellwasright · 06/06/2022 08:25

Great! A BBC bashing thread from the Mumsnet Tories.

As opposed to what? A BBC worshipping thread from the Mumsnet Wokies? If we're going to be so faux-sensitive then you'll have to cancel 99% of history and not just of the country you seem to hate but all countries and races, of whatever hue.

Username91 · 06/06/2022 10:12

Beamish22 · 06/06/2022 10:05

Really? The comment made such an impression on you a few years ago that you remember it to this day?

Three different posters on this thread have mentioned this so it’s really not that hard to believe. He came across as a bit of a dick to be honest.

JenniferBarkley · 06/06/2022 10:12

I think there's a difference between saying his nan held these attitudes, and saying that he wouldn't try foods himself because "foreign muck". I've only read the comments so perhaps out of context but they read more the second to me. That he held that view.

Fine not to like something, but to call it foreign muck (and then realise after 78 years that it's actually nice!!!) is a bit off.

Username91 · 06/06/2022 10:15

JudgeJ · 06/06/2022 10:11

As opposed to what? A BBC worshipping thread from the Mumsnet Wokies? If we're going to be so faux-sensitive then you'll have to cancel 99% of history and not just of the country you seem to hate but all countries and races, of whatever hue.

What is being cancelled you absolute muppet? Len Goodman is on tv all the time and I am sure as shit still will be. What are you on about a country they seem to hate? You have determined that to be the case from a one sentence post? Idiot.

ancientgran · 06/06/2022 10:17

Stroopwaffels · 06/06/2022 09:00

Len Goodman has EXACTLY the same attitudes as his nan.

There was a (pretty rubbish) programme on BBC a few years ago with him and Ainsley Harriot going round the UK meeting all sorts of people from all sorts of cultures, cooking and eating food in an attempt to get Len to eat more than a roast dinner or fish and chips.

Len was having none of it. Didn't like any of it. Turned his nose up at anything "foreign". He is not a nice man.

Do we have to eat certain food to be considered "nice" and if so why? Would you condemn someone from a different ethnic background for liking the food they grew up with and not liking British cuisine?

I like a roast and fish and chips and I also like curries, pastas, North African cuisine but I don't like shellfish does that diminish me in some way? How bizarre if it does.

Everydaydayisaschoolday · 06/06/2022 10:18

People often have odd ideas about nationality and foods. I recently stayed with a Portuguese friend and there were times when she tried to stop me ordering a dish in a restaurant because 'English people don't eat things like that'. They included liver and sardines.

JudgeJ · 06/06/2022 10:19

the French and Italians openly mock British food. I'd be inclined to agree with them in some cases!
But mocking anything British is totally acceptable apparently!

When we were selling our last house in an area where many Asian families were moving to we had some appallingly racist comments abour how we lived from viewers who seemed to think they could make any comment they wished.

MushMonster · 06/06/2022 10:20

Yes we should speak about the past, acknowledge how far we have come!
He should not be made to feel in the wrong or have anyone apologising for him.
And if anyone is offended, to be honest, we should all be a bit more understanding, take things into the context they are said and stop been upset by everything! It is leading to a pathetic world where people cannot talk about their experience in this live.

WakeWaterWalk · 06/06/2022 10:23

kolomo · 06/06/2022 08:56

I'm so sick of fucking Twitter. Can't we just turn it off.

I actually have turned off myself and basically stopped watching TV and reading newspapers because of this endless bullshit. The media needs some kind of intervention. They need to just get the hell off Twitter.

Me too.
Heard about this from a friend yesterday and saw it "trending" on my phone this am.
This thread is the third reference. I had written a long post about a French grandma calling my food "shit" but can't be bothered engaging having read Avocant77's post.
Stop the world I want to get off. But maybe not before I've spoken to all the grandmas.

mypinkslippers · 06/06/2022 10:24

I think the issue is it could give idiots a perceived free pass to repeat it, in the playground, in "work banter" and such, and the issue is that we have so many of these idiots in the population that something like that can snowball and cause harm to an already fatigued group on receipt of such comments.

So in that regard I suppose it was in bad taste, perhaps unnecessary for him to utter it on television.

Having said that, I don't agree with censorship or hypersensitivity because I think it's important to discuss things and openly speak about things, but I realise many will feel a balance must be struck and common sense should prevail.

One would perhaps think 'I'll keep that to myself' but another may think 'well, it's a fact, so why not state it?' and I can't fault either argument. So I don't feel there's a "right" answer either way.

People who are not okay with it being said are presumably not echoing it and so not talking about it, but it's sparked discussion nonetheless which must not be comfortable for the group adversely affected.

I'd probably have kept my mouth shut, but then I'm not his age. I also actually have no idea of the context as I do not watch the BBC. He's also probably given fuel to the fire of 'all old white men need to die so we can progress' which is just as hateful in my opinion.

mam0918 · 06/06/2022 10:24

My grandmother was born in the 30s and there was always loads of pasta in house (its basically all I would eat as a child with food allergies).

My grandmother was not remotely racist though and took in several refugees (african, indian, middle eastern etc...) over her lifetime and would invite them back for holiday visits long after they had moved on though so I imagine she was around worldly cuisine quite alot.

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 06/06/2022 10:28

Beamish22 · 06/06/2022 09:54

What bothers me about this and similar stories - the apologies! Apologising for comments like this is leading us into a situation where people are literally afraid to say the wrong thing. Common sense seems to be failing. Historical facts are being deleted or altered. Nobody should have to apologise for factually reporting something that someone else has said. Different if they were to report an offensive comment and then make it clear that they supported and agreed with it. Can't people see the difference?

I kept this comment that was made on another thread some time ago -
"Do we want to live in a sanitised world where nobody is allowed to write a work of fiction (song or book or poem etc) that reflects a seedy, but real, aspect of life? It's wrong to murder people, but crime thriller writers aren't to be condemned as prospective murderers are they? Or their books burned because they portray situations that are illegal, cruel or otherwise unacceptable. "

I wonder if some would ban a book because a character made the "foreign muck" comment? I guess they would.

This really.

mustlovegin · 06/06/2022 10:30

You sound very kind and inclusive Username91

MelonsMelonsMelons · 06/06/2022 10:38

I can’t believe the BBC have actually apologised for this.