My good friend is in her late twenties and divorced with a small child. Her boyfriend is 33. (I'm going to call him John though obviously not his real name) has just moved in with her into her flat.
They met a few years ago and had a fling which he ended.
They've been 'mates' since drinking in the same local (with the occasional sexual encounter no doubt) and she had another casual relationship which ended.
Anyway John's never had a job and never moved out of his mother's house apart from the brief time he moved out and apparently lived in chaos and mess.
About six months ago his mother put pressure on him to move out (don't blame her) so he suggested a trial run of living together with my friend.
Apparently it 'worked out' and he's now moving in full time.
The reason I ask 'is this cocklodgery?' is that I can't see what he's gaining financially from it. Though he only ever goes to the pub once a week so spends little.
My friend also doesn't work but she has an extremely reasonable reason as her child is only two and she is her sole carer. Her child has some mild learning difficulties.
I don't see any reason why John is not working.
Basically they'd still all be on benefits.
What do you think of this situation? I've known her a long time and don't want to see her hurt. I know what I think but don't want to influence any replies.
TIA.