I’m completely new here, literally don’t know where else to post or ask and don’t want ask any friends before I’ve cleared my head.
im an adult woman (20’s) and I live with my dad (60) alone.
A few months ago something strange occurred in my house.
I was home alone and going to do a wash load. I opened the washer and there were damp-ish items In there- so I took them out to discover it was a yellow dusting cloth (ripped to shreds), a glass glove cleaner thing, and a pair of very small (tight waisted) boxer shorts-my immediate thought was that they were boys/child’s boxers.
My dad is very overweight and never worn boxers is his life. I have a younger brother (20’s) but he hasn’t been to my dads house in two years.
They can’t be either my dads or my brothers. They’d also had stains in them as if they’d been recently worn.
I was obviously very alarmed and confused by this. I took pictures on my phone of all the items then put them on a pile of of my dads washing as if i hadn’t noticed them because I didn’t want to confront him without trying to figure out more, also I was scared.
I was keeping a look out for weird stuff in the wash and didn’t discover anything else, however I also think those items have been binned because I haven’t seen them again. Looked for the cleaning glove and cloth in the diy cupboards to no avail either.
When on YouTube, I get AD recommendations like everyone else (the links just below the video you’re watching)
I keep getting recurring ads for ‘child models’ ‘aged between 3-12’…
needless to say this is nothing to do with either what I’m watching on YouTube (normally beauty or sports videos) and certainly nothing to do with my general Googling…
I have noticed that if you share the same wifi (I.e. in a house with the same IP) you can receive targeted ads across different devices/phones.
I know this because I’ve also got targeted ads for prostate screening (I’m female) and my dad is currently having his levels checked, so he has obviously been Googling it himself, which makes me highly concerned as to why I’m receiving ads for child models?
I tried to put it down to coincidence but today it happened again (maybe the 4th time in a couple months) and I just couldn’t ignore it. It’s freaking me out.
My dad was out and I went into his room and through his stuff.
in one of his sock draws I found a child’s bralette (literally has a label on it which says 9-11 years) and I found another pair of small boxers (this label saying for 13 years) which also have a hole in them and again have worn stains.
I’ve taken them out of the draw so they don’t disappear and locked them in my storage for now.
I don’t know what to do or what to think.
If these were adult garments I would just leave them and try not to think about them, as who wants to think of their parents in that sort of way anyway?
However the fact that all 3 items are quite clearly for children and the child model ads im also getting…I’m so worried and don’t know If I’m unreasonably thinking something is suspicious and is seriously wrong…?
im racking my brain thinking of all my dads’ past behaviour.
A few months ago, near the time I discovered the first set of boxers, we were out in London and I remember him commenting on all the school kids about. I said it’s weird that he would comment that and he went silent.
We also had a carer for my late nan, this carer was like family to us and sometimes her young daughter (4ish) would come in with her on the afternoon shift after school. I’d met the daughter loads of times as we’d sit and chat whilst her mum took care of my nan.
My dad knew this as all us adults would chat about my nans care- but my dad always mentioned to the carer that she should bring ‘daisy’ (not real name) in whenever she likes, and when I think back- I think it was excessive how often he would mention it.
He also comments on how lovely and clever the little girl is next door (7ish?) very often. In actual fact the kids next door are beyond bratish and scream the street down and no one else on the street looks at them favourably- just my dad.
if I’m really honest, I believe my dad often comments about children. Nothing explicit but usually saying nice cutesy things if he sees kids but usually to me, not to them or their parents.
my mum and dad spilt when I was four, so it’s been two decades about. I’ve never know him to date anyone else ever since, my mum or any other family has never mentioned another partner. Friends of mine that know my family often ask why my dad has been single all this time. I’m questioning everything tbh.
Maybe all this added info is pure paranoia at this stage.
what would people here recommend and what would you think If you were in this situation?
thank you