AIBU to be upset and annoyed at my partner because I've been away for 2 days and 2 nights with our 3 children (4, 2 and newborn), alone when I was visiting my mum (who is disabled, which is relevant for the fact it means she can't help me with the kids) and then my sister who is in hospital and quite sick, and my partner has done absolutely no housework. I left almost immediately after we'd had his family over all week (he'd been working so I had to do all the entertaining and they're horrible people) and he had 48 hours to himself with no work, no kids and no one else in the house but himself. But instead of just taking a couple of hours to do something that benefits all of us he just sat on his arse, played Xbox, drank 8 beers, then went to the pub. He could've done those things and helped with the house, but instead he chose to only think about himself. So after a ridiculously long and emotionally draining few days for me, including all together 12 hours on trains on my own, I've now got an entire house to clean while I'm also looking after all the kids.
He's acting like I'm being unreasonable to have expected him to do it while I was gone since IMO it really wouldn't have taken long when you have no children to tend to or to trash it while you're do it nf it. Is it unreasonable to expect him to do it? It's his house too.
I was just really hoping to be able to relax when I got home, but I can't even see the floor in our bedroom and no pots have been washed the entire time I've been gone.
He told me he'd been tidying up for hours, but I literally can not even see one space he's tidied up.