How many friends have you fallen out with/cut out your life? (Or had it happen to you)

[elevenspowers]

I’m asking about friends because we choose those and we can’t choose family.

I had a childhood best friend, born two months apart, lived on the same street and our mums were best friends. She was however exceptionally snobby and I saw her cut out friends one by one, until it got to my turn. I guess because I didn’t live up to her standards anymore, I never got an explanation, she would just make excuses when I asked to meet up - so I stopped asking.

Then the friend I cut out was a compulsive liar. She used me a lot for money, lifts and then started lying about an illness. She told me she was in hospital when she was actually having her eyelashes done.

One.

Because a very serious incident happened to my very young child when she was in her care. Think so serious the police were involved, and a month later she was still lying her arse off about what happened.

I had a traumatised child, who could tell me some of what happened, but not old enough to give me an accurate timeline.

Some mutual friends then cut contact with ME because she lied about why we had fallen out, omitting the actual reason, and frankly I find it too upsetting to discuss the details so only my sister and two close friends are aware of it.

I cba to correct them.

Sadly a few.

Best friend from school - was always a little entitled, but when she turned into a semi-famous person and felt she was indeed better than everyone else, time to cut her off.

Friend from 6th form - cut her off when she said my miscarriage at 17 weeks wasn't 'that big a deal, wasn't even a baby' No coming back from that one.

Friend from work - history of unsuitable, abusive men After being there for numerous all consuming fallouts, her getting pregnant to a guy she had literally just met was just the final nail. As I predicted, they've since split up.

School run friend - stole £500 off me and then bad mouthed me to the playground mums - most of whom still believe it's me who's the bad guy.

The one I'm super sad about was a male friend - who got a new girlfriend and basically cut us all off. He reached out about 6 months ago, but after missing my kid's birthdays and not being there at all for a couple of 'big' moments, I just couldn't bring myself to answer the call.

I've cut out three. The first because she had an alcohol problem, I was supportive but we were living together and she had a young child that I had to try and shield from the worst of it but I'd had enough when she tried to have a fist fight with me when she was in a state. It was the final straw. Things got worse after I left, social services got involved and the child went to live with her dad. Her daughter is an adult now and doing well. The ex friend has been in and out of prison for assaults and drug offences.

The second was so highly strung that I had to walk on egg shells around her. I was the last friend she had in the city we lived in because she was pretty vile to everyone and slowly they pulled back from her.

The third was a bit more complicated, we had an argument about her interfering in my business. She was trying to be a good friend but it didn't come across well and she took a dislike to my new boyfriend (now my lovely DH) because she wasn't seeing as much of me. We kind of cut eachother out after having an argument so it was a two way street.

All these friends were cut out when i was in my twenties and my life revolved around my friends. I have good memories with the first friend, she was a good person before addiction gripped her but I'm still in touch with her family and she's someone I wouldn't want to be within a mile of.

I don't miss the second friend at all.

The third friend I wouldn't say I missed as she was quite forceful in my business but if I saw her now I'd be happy to say hello but that's as far as it goes.

Blimey you got unlucky in the friendship draw. I hope you have decent friends now?