To think that children should always get their mother's last name?

[CaptSkippy]

Here me out.

99% of the burden of reproduction is on women. All the pain and discomfort that come with pregnancy and childbirth are for the woman alone. No man has to suffer physically in any way for a child to be born.

All he has to do is have an orgasm.

Therefore I think that the honor of passing on a family name should belong to women alone.

What do you think?

Why not.
makes more sense that choosing the fathers name just because.

I think parents can and should do whatever suits them.

100% agree!

How about women do what suits them and their situation best.
My DC have their dads name. That's fine with me.

100% agree

I’ve always thought this. Never understood why most seem to do it the other way round.

Many cultures are matrilineal. It’s not new. But I don’t agree things should be one way or the other, I believe parents can choose their childrens’ names

Yanbu. It should be automatic. I can't change my dc's name to mine (xp wouldn't allow it).

If unmarried, probably the best idea. But I wouldn't have given my DS my maiden name.

I think parents should decide between them what name their child should have. And everyone else should know that other people's children's names are nothing to do with them.

I dont understand why unmarried women or married women who dont change their name on marriage seem to give their children the fathes name - maybe as a middle name its a nice idea.
Women who have changed thier name do give their child their name.

Agreed! Why do unmarried mothers give their children just their partners name?!

I'm not giving my child my last name as it's my ex husband's name and it's not his child!

My children have my name. I also have the same name as my DH. If I didn't though, my children would have my name and not his.

I think the mother's name should be the automatic default for all the reasons you listed op. If parents want something else that's fine too.

My baby has my name and her father's name as her middle name. We're not married but I wouldn't change my name even if we were.

I gave my DC my DP's last name, not specifically because he is their father, but mainly because my surname has been the source of much ridicule for my whole life and I refused to put my DC through that.
I dont see what's so difficult to understand why some women choose to give their DC their partners surname.

I think it actually is the tradition to give babies their mother's surname. It's just that historically in the majority of cases the mother has by that point married and taken the name of the father. Unwed mothers didn't give their baby the father's name.

My wife and I are married, but each kept our own names, our baby will have my name (due to my not having living family so the name would die with me otherwise). But in the hospital the wrist tags etc. will read Baby Wifesname as that is how it has always been done.

It is in the hospital before registration. I know a baby who’s hospital tag read Jackson Jackson for that reason.

I don't think surnames should even be a thing. They're old-fashioned, remind me of someone 'belonging' to someone else, which is bollocks, also and reminiscent of slavery IMO.

Just choose a first name and use another (any) name as a surname. I changed my surname to my middle name by deed-poll.

But whose last name is that?

It's a man's, her mother's husbands or her mother's father's.

Yup! Agree with you there.

It’s everyday sexism we’ve all stopped noticing. My spouse was keen for his name to be used (he’s not usually such a dinosaur) and I went with it. Now if one of my kids makes a scientific breakthrough, it won’t be my name in the history books.

Women are gaslighted that they’re getting ‘worked up over nothing’ but it is a big deal if we stop to think about it. I don’t think about it much but I’m honest enough to admit our decision was sexist.

It's still a man's name no matter how far back you go.

Well, we need to start somewhere.

I can trace my mother's mother's mother's name back and perhaps get my name changed to that. It's a nice name too, but it might confuse people as to my lineage and make them think I am tied to a famous historical person, which I would not be.

It’s more logical, let’s be real.