To worry about Adult DC going NC?

[Regularmumnetter]

First off I’m aware how ridiculous this sounds. But I’ve been reading a lot of sad stories on MN of adult DC who have gone no contact for no reason (well as the poster says) or with no explanation. Every time I read one of these stories I feel like I walk on eggshells around my adult DC worrying that they’ll do this (not that they have any reason too - I don’t think??) but then I worry about if I have forgotten something that I’ve done accidentally that’s upset them years ago etc.

Is this irrational? Do other people feel like this?

went NC with my mum and unintentionally the rest of my family (aunts, uncles, cousins & siblings)

This has happened to a few people I know that going no contact means they lose relationships with others in the family. Mine did know about the abuse but still clearly sided with my mother. I never understood why, but I think it's shocking. My father's family (divorced) are still in touch.

My foster son is VLC with his mother and if you were to ask her, she would say she didn't understand, there was nothing, she did nothing wrong.

The truth is she physically abused him and allowed him to be physically abused by his father and then by subsequent partners she was with, and now that he is an adult she expects him to dance attendance and adore her, all the while acknowledging nothing.

I'm very sceptical about these parents who say they have no idea.

I'm very sceptical about these parents who say they have no idea.

I agree. It's to save face or they're in denial. I sent a letter asking my mother never to contact me again and I laid out the reasons why, just in case there was any doubt. I'd imagine the blame is somehow laid on me, but I no longer care about that as I once did.