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Apparently I'm a wimp for not liking horror.

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DevilishDiva · 27/05/2022 10:19

DH all excited for stranger things today. I watched the first 3 series because he kept going on at me to watch it. Didn't like the gore side of things and closed my eyes but some bits really did make me feel sick/unsettled (the rats in particular and I really don't like the monsters! Oh and particularly bobs death really got me)

Today, I'm feeding baby and dh puts on stranger things and I said I'd rather the baby (5 months) didn't see it. I know it probably won't traumatise her so I took her into another room and we're playing with her toys with baby tv on.

Dh then makes the statement that I'm such a wimp when it comes to scary movies etc.

Simple fact is I don't like them. Never have. Never will. I don't like blood/violence/gore or scary things. I'm not a fan of stranger things - can't help that.

He says He's joking but he does it all the time if something violent/scary comes on.

He's now not watching it but he's clearly annoyed even though I've told him to watch it!!

So my question is:

YABU - stop being a wimp
YANBU - you can't help what you don't like! DH needs to stop with the jibes.

OP posts:
Beamur · 27/05/2022 10:24

I'm a wimp too.
Sounds like your DH is a big baby who doesn't like to watch scary things by himself 😉

ApolloandDaphne · 27/05/2022 10:26

YANBU. I hate them too. We were asked to watch Candyman for my English Lit class last semester and two of us in the class point blank refused. No one told us we were wimps. It was just accepted without question.

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DevilishDiva · 27/05/2022 10:26

Beamur · 27/05/2022 10:24

I'm a wimp too.
Sounds like your DH is a big baby who doesn't like to watch scary things by himself 😉

He will quite happily watch horror himself lol just not very often as he blames me for being a wimp lol!

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refreshingseahorse · 27/05/2022 10:28

YANBU
Horror should be subdivided into separate sub genres. I love anything ghost /
spooky but always hide my eyes for anything gory. Refuse to be in the room for stuff that's purely about cruelty / torture. Life is too short to traumatise yourself for no good reason.

YarnHoarder · 27/05/2022 10:30

I don't like horror either, I have very visual thoughts and memories and find my mind can latch onto horrible things I see leading to horrible dreams. I am currently watching Stranger Things today though but will only watch it during daylight hours and look away/mute as needed. When I was younger I did attempt to play Last Of Us (zombie game) but had to play with someone else in the room during daylight hours and even then still had recurring images of certain parts of it and haven't played the second game. I wouldn't subject someone to watching Stranger Things (or other horror) if they didn't want and certainly wouldn't be calling them names about it.

We all have different tolerance levels for this kind of thing, I also just don't like to feel scared even if I know I'm logically in no danger from what I'm seeing.

Kanaloa · 27/05/2022 10:31

I don’t think you’re unreasonable to dislike horror. People like different things. I think it’s a bit OTT to make it about the five month old and leave the room with her. My youngest watched the first few series of Suits while breastfeeding but as far as I’m aware she has no memory of it.

Also, Stranger Things? To be honest I’d think someone was a bit wimpy if they were precious about a show like that. The scariest thing in it is Billy’s lip fluff.

Oreosareawful · 27/05/2022 10:31

I'm a wimp too, although I like Stranger Things! Luckily me and DH have the same feelings about horror.
If he's watching something I don't want to see or visa versa we just go to separate rooms. Nothing wrong with that?

ofwarren · 27/05/2022 10:31

I hate it too
I don't derive any pleasure from being scared, shocked or repulsed.

Kanaloa · 27/05/2022 10:32

But yeah you’re not unreasonable to not like it. I don’t watch everything the same as DH, we watch some different things and some things the same.

BluebellField · 27/05/2022 10:32

Nooo it's not about being a wimp. Everyone has likes and dislikes. Does your DH like romantic films? Is he cold and unromantic if he doesn't? No he's not. The world would be a very boring place if we all liked the same films, books etc.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 27/05/2022 10:33

I hate it. Honestly l just don’t get what pleasure people get from watching other people being terrified/killed/abused.

And I’m snobby about it😂

Chikapu · 27/05/2022 10:33

Stranger Things is horror? It's really pretty tame.

luxxlisbon · 27/05/2022 10:34

Stranger things is hardly horror, it’s definitely OTT to leave the room because don’t want a baby to be ‘exposed’ to something like that.

TibetanTerrah · 27/05/2022 10:36

Would you tell him he had low emotional intelligence if he didn't like romcoms? Hmm he's rude, people like what they like.

zafferana · 27/05/2022 10:36

I don't like horror either OP. Any time I watch a horror film - and I do from time to time - I have nightmares afterwards. But I have to admit that there is something exciting about being scared shitless. It's a bit like a really scary rollercoaster - you're so flooded with adrenaline afterwards that there's a part of you that just wants to do it again!

bongsuhan · 27/05/2022 10:39

TibetanTerrah · 27/05/2022 10:36

Would you tell him he had low emotional intelligence if he didn't like romcoms? Hmm he's rude, people like what they like.

Pretty sure low emotional intelligence is prerequisite for liking romcoms :)

orwellwasright · 27/05/2022 10:39

YANBU to not enjoy horror. You're bonkers if you think Stranger Things is going to traumatise a five month old baby though.

TibetanTerrah · 27/05/2022 10:40

Oh good, because I hate them Grin

LakieLady · 27/05/2022 10:43

YANBU. Most horrors are absolutely ridiculous and often more laughable than horrifying. I don't have a problem with gore or violence as long as it's relevant and not gratuitous, but horror leaves me cold.

Mind you, I don't like musicals or rom coms either, so I'm hard to please.

Momicrone · 27/05/2022 10:43

Surely slagging off other people's movie choices, be it horror or rom com, is a sign of low emotional intelligence

Seriously79 · 27/05/2022 10:44

Fellow wimp here too 👋

Never liked them, never will.

MumNBass · 27/05/2022 10:46

I'm not at all into anything horror. It's just not my idea of entertainment, or a pleasant way to spend my time. I don't really like any TV or books with violence or tension either, so not really into psychological thrillers either. It's just not my thing. It doesn't make me a 'wimp'. I actually live a very difficult real life with discipline, strength and courage, if I may say so myself.

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DevilishDiva · 27/05/2022 10:46

orwellwasright · 27/05/2022 10:39

YANBU to not enjoy horror. You're bonkers if you think Stranger Things is going to traumatise a five month old baby though.

Fully accept I'm bonkers to have taken baby away. I just remember being forced as a young kid to watch the horror films my brother watched. Used to barricade me in his room and I wasn't allowed to leave otherwise he would damage something in the house and blame me. Mind you I was about 5 then so a lot older lol!

I'll put baby back in with him and do some housework! Although he's still not watching it!

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Kanaloa · 27/05/2022 10:46

orwellwasright · 27/05/2022 10:39

YANBU to not enjoy horror. You're bonkers if you think Stranger Things is going to traumatise a five month old baby though.

I don’t know… what if the baby starts sprouting really big hair? Or - worse - a bowl cut?

CharSiu · 27/05/2022 10:46

I actually do like horror, it’s best watched alone in the dark in the middle of the night. It rarely scares me.

The problem with some people is they want to share their love of film or music and seem quite offended if others don’t like it.

DH hates horror, so I have almost never watched it with him. He has on occasion said an actual plot looks interesting enough for him to want to watch it.

Stranger Things is not a horror series.